crackster Posted October 31, 2011 Share Posted October 31, 2011 Ok i been over 2 months NC and yes its hard but getting there.. do i want my ex back .. after all this hell no! i would never get back with her! any ways i was just thinking last night i no my EX very well.. well i thought lol. any ways even if she wanted to get back with me for talki no 4 a fact she would not text me first at all she is way to Stubborn! she would never do that. so i was just thinking about NC what if the person doing NC and wants there ex back.. and the ex wants to get back/talk to them but to To Proud/Stubborn to contact first cos they ended it.. any ways just wanted to no if this has every happened to u and u found out years down the line.. r do you no your ex is that to Proud/Stubborn to contact you first... Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted October 31, 2011 Share Posted October 31, 2011 if you dont want your ex back, this question will actually stop your healing in its track because you are thinking about the future. Focus on your present and only worry about you. Nobody knows whats going to happen in the future Link to post Share on other sites
M2155 Posted October 31, 2011 Share Posted October 31, 2011 I agree with WisonX. Although I've heard years later from guys the "hey I really loved you" blah blah blah but only when neither of us care anymore and it's a moot point. I also think my recent ex is too proud with too much ego so I guess it's ultimately a blessing I don't have to worry about hearing from him. Besides, if someone lets pride get in the way of being with the person they really want to be with, that someone didn't want it bad enough. Link to post Share on other sites
Mcnulty Posted October 31, 2011 Share Posted October 31, 2011 Are you being truthful when you say you don't want her back? Reading between the lines, it seems that you're thinking, ****, what if she wants me back, but is just being stubborn. Link to post Share on other sites
kittenkit Posted October 31, 2011 Share Posted October 31, 2011 Besides, if someone lets pride get in the way of being with the person they really want to be with, that someone didn't want it bad enough. I agree with this. It's a test of them really. If it was an entirely mutual breakup (do they really exist?) there would be no harm in breaking contact to see how the other person is. If you dumped someone and regret it - there's no harm in contacting them to see if there's any chance. The other person can only say no! But if someone finished with you, you have to maintain NC for your own self respect and your own sanity. You can't worry that the other person might be too proud to contact you. Too proud? In that situation if the person is too proud, they don't want it enough. Exactly as M2155 says. Link to post Share on other sites
joseph17 Posted October 31, 2011 Share Posted October 31, 2011 If she is stubborn enough to not call you she doesn't want it that bad or let it eat her up inside. It's not your problem if she doesn't want you back and you can't really assume how someone will react after a breakup. That once nice person all of a sudden turns into someone you have never seen before. So if you want her back call her and see where it stands. If you don't then leave it alone and keep progressing forward Link to post Share on other sites
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