PithyWorld Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Well... It looks like I have a massive problem on my hands. Something that is beyond my control. Despite this fact I have to do something about it. You see... About a year and a few months ago I was in a long distance relationship with a girl 6,000 miles away. The relationship lasted for 4 years, but ended because I wasn't able to see her for around... lets say 2 and a half years? The relationship grew stale, so I decided to end it. In three months time I started dating a new person, we hit it off, and I never looked back. Right now we are approaching our one year anniversary fast. It has been largely a drama free relationship, however a ghost from the past is coming back to haunt me in a big way. My EX girlfriend was mentally, sharper than a razor and she could work harder than a workhorse in the fields. Because of her combo of wits, and work ethic she rose to the top of her class at her university and received a scholarship to study in a prestigious university in my area. To make things worse, she is good friend of my family. My family has opened the doors to her, and since she has no other connections to this area besides us, she plans on staying with us quite a bit. I have spoke up about it, but my family does not care. Essentially I could, feasibly end up practically living with my EX. This is probably going to make my current girlfriend upset. She is a chill, laid back person but this situation would be enough to drive anybody upset. The question I pose to LS is; how would you deliver the news to your SO, and how would you improve the situation? I'm going to say this, right here because I know it will be brought up. Moving in with my current girlfriend is not an option at this point. My job is not stable, and I do not make very much money as it is.
ascendotum Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 4yrs is a long time for a LDR, I don't know how you did it. Did you ever end up have sex with this 6000mil away girl? I ask because I think it makes a difference in terms of the level of initmacy this relationship reached as to how awkward this is going to be for your new gf. I was going to suggest say nothing but chances are your gf will end up meeting this ex and she'll spill the beans. The way you describe it, this impending situation with the ex staying is out of your hands. You have to make this very clear to the new gf, that this is the case and you protested to your parents about it. If she gets upset, you will just have to ride it out. You have done nothing wrong or anything to feel guilty about. Tell your new gf that your ex hates you after you broke up with her. Tell your new gf to find a guy to set up your ex with if she's paranoid to have this single girl living in the same house as you.
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