Why is it that guys nevr want to get to know me... they always just want sex or a h/u

[lovepinkkx17]

it's just so frustrating... every time i meet a cute guy that seems interested, they're only interested in one thing, and it's getting into my pants. sounds typical, i know. but lately its been like EVERY single guy that i could potentially see myself dating has been such a let down. ): i get all excited when i find out a cute guy thinks i'm cute back, but then i get so disappointed when i realize all he wants to do is have sex or get a bj. im 18 years old, im a freshmen in college, i have a lot of friends and a great personality. but i just can't get guys that i'm interested in to figure that out.... or anything regarding me or my life. i dont get itt:(

 

if its at all relevant, heres a pic of me:

http://a3.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/294193_10150350021891942_518981941_9486292_6839834_n.jpg

 

maybe i give off the wrong impression? IDK please help me figure this out:( i've never been so frustrated in my life!

[joystickd]

Hell if you were around you I would date. I wouldn't say wrong impression you give off. It maybe type of guy you attracted to. You are in college and some guys aren't into serious relationships at this time.

[Professor X]

It's a combination of a few things probably (IMO anyway):

 

Age - Guys your age want sex. Majority of them anyway. They want to explore life and have sex, not settle down with a RS.

 

Wrong impression - I'm sure that by the pic you gave us, that's how you're looking everyday, walking with cleavage and make up, most people will see it like you're trying to get some yourself (which isn't wrong).

Also the fact that you linked a B/W photo means external validation is important to your self esteem, which probably explains why you dress the way you do.

 

Filter - The guys you find cute are the typical guys who just want sex. It's all those handsome ones, yes? Well, why would they settle for you when they can have lots of partners to have sex with, think about it.

You need to start looking beyond the surface if you want a RS, get to know guys you think are ok and nice.

And I mean get to KNOW them, not just how they look on the outside.

 

Anyway, it's just my opinion.

[snug.bunny]

Welp, since we only have a picture to work off of, I would say cover your boobies more. You have a "sexy" look which is alluring...so...try to balance that out.

[Ruby Slippers]

Tone down the makeup and cleavage.

 

And simply don't have sex until you get to know the guy. If he splits because he doesn't get sex fast, good riddance.

[PlumPrincess]

Guys who are not hot, guys who are geeks and nerds, they will pay genuine attention to you and won't pressure you for sex anytime within the first seven months of knowing you. Even if your cleavage is showing. Not only that, but guys like that will never, ever cheat on you. Ever. But if those are the type of guys you won't give the time of day, then it's time you reconsider.

 

:lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

By the way, guys, I think the post is fake.

[Gemini.rain]

You are pretty. No wonder guys want to be around you. Anyway, be aware with your body languages. I saw your pic and you are sexy in your way. That is what I can said.

 

Note : Remember, if there is only one man treat you like that, it showed that the problem is in the man but if there are some men treat you the same, try to look back into you, dear. I'm sorry to tell you that but maybe something wrong, like your body language, dresses, how you reactive to men' pursue, etc.

 

Good luck!

 

Hugs,

Gemini.rain

[grkBoy]

lately its been like EVERY single guy that i could potentially see myself dating has been such a let down.

 

Don't take this personally, but I have a feeling EVERY guy you see as "potential" or "I'd date him" are the guys who only want a hookup. I wouldn't be surprised if the qualities you desire in a man seem to go hand-in-hand with the men who only want a hookup. I'm not saying you desire men who want a hookup, but saying the combo of looks and personality you like seem to only come from those guys.

 

You might either have to hold out for the rare one who wants a relationship, or rethink it all and see which guys want a RL over a hookup.

 

Believe me, you're not the first woman to do this. Seen many who either like the "macho Italian" types or the "narcissistic yuppie" types...and yet these women complain why there aren't any guys like them who want commitment. Sort of an evil irony or cosmic joke.

 

 

im 18 years old, im a freshmen in college

 

That's probably a lot of it all. You're at the age when many men and women just do hookup culture over commitment.

 

 

i have a lot of friends and a great personality.

 

I don't think those guys care. Looking at your pic, you're a pretty girl, but these guys only see pretty face, sexy body, and thick lips for a BJ.

 

It's not you...other than your possible taste in men.