joystickd Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Like for example women if a man walked up to you and instead of making small talk said I want to have sex with you. How would you react? Could you just say no or would you make a big deal about it? Men if a woman said hey I just want your money or I have absolutely no interest in you instead of saying they wanted to be friends. Another question is can you be honest with yourself about what you want
wezol Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Like for example women if a man walked up to you and instead of making small talk said I want to have sex with you. How would you react? Could you just say no or would you make a big deal about it? Men if a woman said hey I just want your money or I have absolutely no interest in you instead of saying they wanted to be friends. Another question is can you be honest with yourself about what you want It certainly would take a lot of guesswork/games out of it. I'm all for honesty when it matters, in lieu of playing games.
Metis Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 First of all, like many other animals, humans have what are called "mating rituals". We can change dynamics within the ritual, but the existence of the ritual itself is hardwired within us. Second, the rules of proper social behavior aren't about "dishonesty" or pretense -- they are about allowing people to get closer and build a rapport (or realizing they can't build a rapport and walking away before one of them gets knocked up). I'm sorry, but if I guy walks up to me and tells me he wants to have sex with me, the message to take away from this is that he is stupid. Because if I see an attractive guy across the room, what's going through my mind is "I want to have sex with you, provided you are not a creep or a sexual pervert, and on condition that you are at least a passably good person. Also, I would like to have sex with you in the context of an exclusive, long-term relationship." See, whether or not you want to have sex with someone -- it's not a simple "yes or now" issue, there are multiple conditions attached, even if you don't realize it. So please: it won't kill you to make conversation and actually apply intelligence to figuring out whether the person you are attracted to is worth your time.
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