Rawr-Rawr1989 Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Hello Everyone, Im sorry in advance if this is a bore to read but im in real need of guidance from people who i do not know, atleast you can give me a totally honest opinion. I am a 22 year old female & have been with my fiance for 3 years. We met online & had an instant connection, at this time i actually had a bf but it was a really bad situation, he emotionally & phsically abused me. I got out of the mess with the help of my now fiance. I moved in with him & his family. He is also 22yo aswell. Things have been great, he loves me unconditionally.. But the last few months i have started to feel like im falling out of love with him. He has never had a job (i knew this when i met/moved in with him but i thought it would only be a short tem thing), he hates going out for example anywhere involving alcohol, large crouds etc.. All we do is stay home. He was bashed quite bad when he was younger and he hasnt really ever gotten over it which is one of the reasons he doesnt work. He is quite a depressed person..We have been to see councilers and everything but he still doesnt even look for jobs & whenever anyone mentions anything about jobs he gets angry or just ignores it.. Also his family drive me nuts, honestly they are the laziest people ive ever come across, his mum does nothing other then watch tv, his dad just drinks beer ( neither of them communicate its like their not together), and his brother is glued to the computer 24/7.. None of them cook, clean or do anything. Its left upto me or my fiance to do but most of the time me.. Mind you i pay my way, buy my own food and also pay $100 a week rent. Ive tried to say we should look for a place of our own but with him not earning anything he says he doesnt want to struggle.. I understand that but i have been out of my parents place since i was 16 and i really want my own place! I feel like our relationship is going nowhere, just the same boring routine day in day out.. Im a hard worker, i want my own place, i want to go out for dinner, i want to enjoy life.. But he is the total opposite.. Its doing my head in.. I am now unsure if i truely do love him.. I know i need to speak to him and explain how i feel but i really dont know how to.. Im sorry for rambling on but i feel so messed up at the moment.. I dont know what to do.. Im scared that if i do decide that i want to leave what will happen to him and how will he cope without me.. & how to go about it as we live together with his family.. Any suggestions would be appreciated Ange =)
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