TheBigQuestion Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Hey, some people just don't like anal sex. That shouldn't be a problem. I can get behind that. What I can't get behind is fellow LS comrade Wolf18's assertion that there's no reason why a woman would find it pleasurable (other than her being some sort of "perverted" psycho) when there is enough physiological evidence supporting the opposite conclusion.
Author AHardDaysNight Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 I can get behind that. What I can't get behind is fellow LS comrade Wolf18's assertion that there's no reason why a woman would find it pleasurable (other than her being some sort of "perverted" psycho) when there is enough physiological evidence supporting the opposite conclusion. Yeah, I didn't like that, either. I dislike Wolf's homophobic views, too. I believe it is tied to his hatred of "the femisphere", "manginas", and all of that. Which is reminiscent of a certain forum I used to post on, that had all that crap. Oh, and everyone hated gay people.
OnyxSnowfall Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 To be fair, I'm considered fairly "psychotic" I am a "BPD", after all.... I still think it's possible for "saner" females to enjoy anal sex, nonetheless.
Floridaman Posted December 21, 2011 Posted December 21, 2011 (edited) Why do you need porn to masturbate? Did you not masturbate before you had access to porn? I certainly did! I'm not anti-porn, but this kind of dependence on porn has to affect a person. Porn can be part of a healthy sexual "diet", but it should be a small part--like chocolate cake can be a small part of an overall healthy diet. Porn is a cheat. It's instant gratification. It's TOO easy. Indulge too much, and it will affect your ability to use your own imagination, and fully appreciate a real woman. It happens all the time.. Well-stated. As a former porn user, who has been free for ** ta-da ** over 1 year now, lemmee say I think I'm a better man, husband and person for ditching the nasty habit. Originally Posted by fortyninethousand322 I don't know, I'm with AHDN. I would never watch porn ever again if I had a girlfriend (who was actually having sex with me of course). Heck, I'd probably give up porn just to be able to kiss a girl. I agree with Shattered. Until you've actually been in a relationship and have tested whether or not you will struggle with "regressing" back into porn --- you don't really know. It's just an untested claim. Some men enmesh themselves / their pleasure centers with porn unwittingly. And apparently men do "crave" variety, and men may "justify" revisiting porn if there are other issues within their relationship --- ones they're definitely not anticipating while in the throes of pining for one. But a relationship will not "fix" someone's problems, they can in fact compound them.... True. May have posted this earlier, but think it was in WeLikeInCrowd's big porn thread that got deleted. While I had occasionally bought magazines with naked women during my 20s, didn't really start viewing hardcore porn until I had access to cable chs. like Cinemax when I dated my future wife. With her arms wrapped around me on the couch, facing the other way, would watch the porno movies late at night as she slept. Did this while in a healthy and sexually fulfilling relationship. With the advent of the internet, started looking at porn late at night after she refused my sexual advances. Viewed porn more as a "substitute." This became a big habit as her refusal became permanent. We rarely ML (then). Her choice. I was never allowed to express my love sexually with her, something I'm still upset about. So viewed porn primarily on weekends. Kept numerous bookmarks and pics on a separate drive I kept hidden from her. Accelerated my porn use 2 years ago due to circumstances in my marriage (detailed in the Refusal thread I started). We lived apart (not martially separated, just in diff. states temporarily, for about 1 year, though we saw each other monthly). Found myself masturbating to porn sometimes up to 3X a day !!! This got to be a drag and soon felt the strain. Thanks to help from some women here on LS, kicked the habit the fall of 2010. Have had a few "relapses" where for a brief period, wanted to do a quick search for "bikini pics" or something to MB to. That's a snare though as those bikini sites often have hardcore pics, which of course a guy will click. Soon realized though that I don't need porn to MB. The fantasy of my mind, recalling sexual experiences with my wife, will do it for me. Just wish I had her body in real life. You can make "vows" or promises, but they're sometimes hard to keep. Being in a relationship is no guarantee a guy won't view porn. Certainly wish you guys the best and hope you can kick the nasty habit. Edited December 21, 2011 by Floridaman
FredRutherford Posted January 28, 2012 Posted January 28, 2012 "It seems that men and women who view pornography, have improved sex lives, better sexual knowledge, and an overall better quality of life. Surprisingly, one study found that the more that pornography is viewed, the greater the improvements." I want to expound upon this --- because it dawned on me that it could be referring to single people as well (as single people can indeed have sex lives). In that case.......... of the men I've been with who've indulged in porn --- they have been relatively clueless in bed. Sexual "knowledge"?! The type of material being viewed is crucial, it is not some staple blanket. And it's been a hit or miss whether or not they've been happy in general with their life. In my experience, anyone truly addicted to it has actually appeared overall miserable heh. But that comes with most addictions..... LOL, I can confirm that. Sex is one of the many things in life that one can't learn from watching a video. Frankly, it may even lead screwing things up worse than if the video wasn't watched first. Though, there are some instructional movies out there. I got a good movie on how to give oral to a woman that should be helpful. SomeDude, Sex really isn't that difficult a feat. After all, my HS GF & I --- both young and naive --- figured it out, after weeks of heavy petting, caressing, etc. It really wasn't that hard. You likely have some idea of how things work. If the woman is new to it like you, she'll likely not be expecting too much either, and shouldn't be disappointed. And if things don't go so well, don't feel bad. Just shrug it off by saying something like, "It's been a while..." If you two are really in love, the other shouldn't mind too much and may actually prefer a partner who hasn't slept with everyone they dated, IMHO...
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