Makavelli Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Here's my story, I met this girl in early 2009, I met online and decided to move here to Texas to be with her after having a long distance relationship for 8 months. We grew into loving eachother and there were no problems in the relationship at all at this point. I really have no family and my friends had there priorities that did not concern me. My father recently had met a female from Japan and if I was going to move he was to. We lived in a very nice house, I bit the bullet told him I was moving so he sold the house and to put it blankly, if I moved I have burned the bridge of coming back. He moved, I moved, I was unemployed at the time, I was laid off from a previous job. I had $500 to my name, but told myself I would fight to the death to be with this girl and make her happy. I did as I planned, I lived in hotels for weeks upon moving in Dallas, I eventually obtained a job and began working insane hours to pick myself up and be happy with my girlfriend. I saved up alot of money in the process, moved in with a guy I worked with, and saved damn near $15,000 dollars. I was making enough to make things work. This all happened the first year of being here. We did alot of things, I took her to the movies, paid for her cell phone bill, was always there for her, cared for her, helped her family, lent her father $4000 when he needed it, (Still haven't gotten it back), helped her find a job, did everything in my power to make her happy and I did she was in love with me and I was in love with her. We had a few arguments here and there don't get me wrong but it was always small stuff, she was notorius for hanging up on me and her situation with her parents aren't that great, I won't go into details on that but I stood down and didn't get mad at her for it, well I did I did not express it. I have a new job now and I still make "OK" money, about 4 months ago she moved an hour away from me, I currently live with her brother, I have been for over a year now and we have never had any problems. I pay half the rent he pays everything else including utilities. Ever since she moved an hour away, shes been a little more stressed. This place is very country, I mean you move from Dallas to what looks like the set of Texas Chainsaw Massacre. I attempted to help her find a job there, no luck but I tried. I had no problem driving the 80 miles to see her every week more than once a week a few times a week to be exact. She wasn't and still isn't happy there. Well within the last month, it's been very stressful for me as well, she stopped calling as much, she seemed to take her anger out on me, she has no job, no car, no job, but I still was there for her anyways I could be. I went through surgery, was getting kicked out of a house we lived in as well as her brother, because his father owned it and ended up selling it so that added to the stress, I started getting heart palpitations on wich I couldn't explain, they are gone now though. I gained weight which im loosing a significant amount now. I told my girlfriend this and she really didn't have much to say, than out of the blue she broke up with me in a text message. Than turned the phone off and had her dad give the phone back to me for which I had paid for the las 2 years. In the txt is basically said ive been a great boyfriend, caring, helpful, sexy etc. but her love was not there anymore. I haven't seen or spoken to her since. I let her brother use the phone since it was paid off for an entire a year, ( her twin brother that lives over with her as well as her parents) She has 2 brothers, I live with the other one. She does not wish to see me or contact me, I gave her 5 letters, on which I know she has received, hand written letters like back in the day not TXT or anything, i couldn't anyways she now has no phone. Her parents tried talking to her about talking to me she gets mad and has no real response. I loved and still love her to death for the last 4 years. I MOVED from Missouri to Texas to be with her and do everything in my power to make her happy. Her brother told me I "complained" to much and that's the main reason she ended it but that went on only for about a month tops. Which I do admit to and I was wrong for I guess. This has really stunned my life, I feel like nothing , my heart is shattered, nothing interests me at all anymore, I went on a extreme diet instantly and lost 17 pounds in 10 days.... and I know I'm not thinking logically. I really want to get my ex back because I know where things kind of went sour and I should of been there more, I didn't see her for a month because of my stresses and added with her stress it made it worse... I put stuff in front of her and I made that mistake but I still love her very much and I wish I could show her and I know she would see it and probably re-ignite her embers in her heart ( Poetry sucks I know) I have no chance I never get a response... I feel like im in Limbo and I feel my life is over........... What now, don't say move on find someone else because that makes stuff worse... I really want to get back with this girl, sorry for the novel btw.
LovelyDaze Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 I probably won't be able to respond today as much as I would like (got work in the morning) but I would like to say that you sound like a wonderful guy who did a whole heck of a lot for this girl and her family. You may want your ex back but it is never going to be the same. You need to take some time to breathe right now. For you to think that life without her (or any person) is deemed "over" is not good for your well being. Yes, you love her and life seems like it will always be dim without her presence but that is not so. When my ex left, I was numb, lost weight, crying every minute on the hour, the whole nine yards. I swore and I mean SWORE he was the one forever. Now, I have perfect hindsight vision and can't imagine walking around the block with my ex let alone be with him again. Don't think to far into people saying to "get over her" or " you will find someone better", just concentrate on healing for your own heart's sake. Care enough about yourself to let go even if it is just for a little while. I highly discourage any tricks, gimmicks, and tactics that you feel will win her back. Lay low for awhile and analyze what you want in a relationship. You need someone who will go that extra mile for YOU. If you don't have love for yourself, why should anyone else? Believe you deserve a good, healthy, worthwhile relationship without the heartache.
Green Light Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I probably won't be able to respond today as much as I would like (got work in the morning) but I would like to say that you sound like a wonderful guy who did a whole heck of a lot for this girl and her family. You may want your ex back but it is never going to be the same. You need to take some time to breathe right now. For you to think that life without her (or any person) is deemed "over" is not good for your well being. Yes, you love her and life seems like it will always be dim without her presence but that is not so. When my ex left, I was numb, lost weight, crying every minute on the hour, the whole nine yards. I swore and I mean SWORE he was the one forever. Now, I have perfect hindsight vision and can't imagine walking around the block with my ex let alone be with him again. Don't think to far into people saying to "get over her" or " you will find someone better", just concentrate on healing for your own heart's sake. Care enough about yourself to let go even if it is just for a little while. I highly discourage any tricks, gimmicks, and tactics that you feel will win her back. Lay low for awhile and analyze what you want in a relationship. You need someone who will go that extra mile for YOU. If you don't have love for yourself, why should anyone else? Believe you deserve a good, healthy, worthwhile relationship without the heartache. This was a nice post!
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