Cindy P Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 (edited) A couple of months ago, I put an ad on a free dating website. Looking to date, with the intentions of long-term. This guy Brian responds. We chat for a bit by email, then we meet for lunch, and then walked his dog at a beach by his house. I did see he his house, and there was no sign of a woman living there. I told him that I enjoyed meeting him and he told me that if I wanted to get together again to just send him a text. We continued to chat by email, and then one day I sent him a text about what a nice day it was outside so the texting started. After about a month in a round about way, he told me that he is only interested in "casual sex" so I said sorry I am not into a "friends with benefits" thing. I left it at that. He was quiet for a couple of weeks, then the day I put my dog down he sent me a text and said "How are things?" which I thought was weird and scary that he chose that day to text me. So, we start chatting again by text but this time we would chat, and I wouldn't hear anything for days, then he would text me again. Today I put an ad back on the free dating website that said "looking to date and see where it leads....or not!". Well...just a few hours after the ad was up after not hearing anything for a week, he texts me and says "I see you put and ad up. It sounds like you're looking for a friend with benefits...I don't think you have to do that....not classy. The nerve!!!! So I said "I appreciate your opinion, by why not? You are only looking for the occasional fling so I am not sure what the difference is?? The fact that you are looking on this website means you are obviously looking for something I don't have, and I know that. I am just not sure why seeing my ad bothers you. You were deceitful. You responded to my ad for a longterm relationship knowing you didn't want one.!". Of course, he has not responded. What should I do now? Should I say anything else to him? Does anyone have any insight as to why me posting an ad bothered him? He doesn't want me, why does he care! I told him I am not into FWB so I don't know where he got that from. And why does he keep texting me if he doesn't want me. I don't get it. I probably won't hear from him again, but I am just curious. Really its too bad because I really was attracted to him in every way. Thoughts and advice anyone?? Cindy Edited October 31, 2011 by Cindy P forgot another question for viewers
Gemini.rain Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Based on what you write, I think this man is a jerk. He wants you only for FWB. Yes, you said it right. FWB since he enjoyed your company but don't want more than friendship. You did the right thing by stay away from him. Then he seems border by the fact that you reject him, that he is not too okay to you so he made another thing to make you back to him. Stay away from him. No other reason. That is the best way to love yourself. Good luck! Hugs, Gemini.rain
Author Cindy P Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 Thank you for your insight and advice. You are the second person to tell me "Stay away!" It just seems odd to me because what I get from him is that he doesn't want me, but he doesn't want anyone else to have me either. What angered me is that he is only looking for casual sex but when he thought I was looking for that, all of a sudden it was classless! Cindy
FitChick Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I don't see why you are wasting time and energy even thinking about him. Next! Find a dog lover. I think there is a dating website for pet owners.
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