YoungT Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 (edited) So I met this girl at a party and we decided to hang out, the very first time we hung out after that we had "relations" we both decided we like each other and wanted to try to have a real relationship. We been seeing each other every weekend and I took her out on a amazing date and we both had a great time, we play sports together and enjoy the same things. problem is she will only kiss me now, not even a french kiss, i dont so much care about hooking up really i just feel like kissing is a sign of affection. She just gotout of a several year relationship and says she just needs time but idk, feels like im just there to occupy her time. i know its vague and not detailed but im very confused Edited October 31, 2011 by YoungT
ScreamingTrees Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 If she's not ready, she's not ready. If she "needs time alone", let her be. Don't be her emotional tampon, tell her to talk to you when she feels she's ready for another relationship, as she could easily string you along if she's that kind of person. Regardless of your true intent, don't bother until she's emotionally available.
Pierre Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 So I met this girl at a party and we decided to hang out, the very first time we hung out after that we had "relations" we both decided we like each other and wanted to try to have a real relationship. We been seeing each other every weekend and I took her out on a amazing date and we both had a great time, we play sports together and enjoy the same things. problem is she will only kiss me now, not even a french kiss, i dont so much care about hooking up really i just feel like kissing is a sign of affection. She just gotout of a several year relationship and says she just needs time but idk, feels like im just there to occupy her time. i know its vague and not detailed but im very confused She slept with you to numb the pain from the ending of her previous relationship. She was also drunk. Now she realizes what she is doing and perhaps she does not want to hurt you.
grkBoy Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 I think there's a shot that this can grow, but it sounds like she wanted to start from square one. Imagine you two didn't have sex, and just started dating. Would this seem weird to you?
Pierre Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 I think there's a shot that this can grow, but it sounds like she wanted to start from square one. Imagine you two didn't have sex, and just started dating. Would this seem weird to you? SEX TOO SOON is always a bad idea.
stillafool Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 She slept with you to numb the pain from the ending of her previous relationship. She was also drunk. Now she realizes what she is doing and perhaps she does not want to hurt you. I second that. I feel you should pull way back, because chances are she is still in love with her ex.
grkBoy Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 SEX TOO SOON is always a bad idea. I agree...and learned that lesson the hard way. However, from what was said it sounds like this can be salvageable. The OP just needs to let it go that they banged, and treat it like he's at square one again where you slowly work your way into intimacy. She must like him in some way to not only sleep with him but also to actually give dating him a shot.
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