eleanorhurting Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 I have been feeling much better but for some reason I always feel a bit sad on sundays. It has been so hard for me to get used to being single. I long for someone in my life and I feel like i am actively trying extremely hard to be happy without someone. Will I eventually get used to it? I am busy with school, ballet, friends (although i have tons of mutual friends with the ex) but I still feel like something is missing deep down. I know this is a challenge for me and I know I need to do this but its sooo hard! Must be strong be strong be strong. I need to be on my own I can do this.
mike588 Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 I have been feeling much better but for some reason I always feel a bit sad on sundays. It has been so hard for me to get used to being single. I long for someone in my life and I feel like i am actively trying extremely hard to be happy without someone. Will I eventually get used to it? I am busy with school, ballet, friends (although i have tons of mutual friends with the ex) but I still feel like something is missing deep down. I know this is a challenge for me and I know I need to do this but its sooo hard! Must be strong be strong be strong. I need to be on my own I can do this. I feel the same way, Saturdays too. I'm slowly learning to be single too but miss those Sat., Sun. mornings having coffee and reading the paper together. Before I met my ex. I was single for almost 7 months and I guess I enjoyed it because I remember asking myself when I first started dating my ex. I was asking myself do I want to get involved again? I was happy (but alittle lonely) before I met her so I can be happy (but alittle lonely ha) without her,,, it's all about adjusting.
Author eleanorhurting Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 The longest I have been single for since I was 19 has been 3 months. I had 3 back to back LTR (1 year, 2 years and then 1 year up until december 2010) with 3 months in between each (apparently thats how long it takes for me to find someone new) and i never really dated in between. Since december 2010 there has always been somoene who was interested or who was trying to date me or woo me and i was then involved on and off with the ex (the person who never wanted to commit and would just string me along) since April until around August/September. So this is definitely a challenge! But I think unconsciously i know i need to do it because at first I was excited every time someone showed interest and pretty much gave everyone at least a chance to get to know them and I ended up being disappointed all the time. Now everytime someone tries to get near I feel like annoyed and I wont even let them. I guess its my way of definitely trying to stay single as hard as it is. I have developed a huge crush on a resident (im a medical student) but i am trying really hard not to talk to him or reach out to him because it wouldnt be for the best. Anyway, being happy by myself here we come!
perfectlyflawed459 Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 I have been feeling much better but for some reason I always feel a bit sad on sundays. It has been so hard for me to get used to being single. I long for someone in my life and I feel like i am actively trying extremely hard to be happy without someone. Will I eventually get used to it? I am busy with school, ballet, friends (although i have tons of mutual friends with the ex) but I still feel like something is missing deep down. I know this is a challenge for me and I know I need to do this but its sooo hard! Must be strong be strong be strong. I need to be on my own I can do this. Oh my I thought I was the only one who had this weird pattern of feeling sad on Sundays...today I missed him so much. Ugh work was torture and he has been on my mind all day. I have been in NC for only a month, but gosh it feels like it has been several. I just want to see him But we must stay strong!
wheream_i Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 It's just one of those things where you know they're not at work so you wonder what they must be doing with their day and think about the things you would do together as a couple. We used to go hiking on beautiful Sundays like today, then go have a beer, maybe catch a movie and finally make dinner. But most of all just laugh at everything together. Hiking alone is not as much fun but it gives me time to think.
mike588 Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 It's just one of those things where you know they're not at work so you wonder what they must be doing with their day and think about the things you would do together as a couple. We used to go hiking on beautiful Sundays like today, then go have a beer, maybe catch a movie and finally make dinner. But most of all just laugh at everything together. Hiking alone is not as much fun but it gives me time to think. Sounds all to familiar,, except the hiking, and yes I too wonder about her on her days off,,, what's she's doing with her new man,,, (her ex.) and the fun things we used to do.
sleepykitten Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 I have those sunday blues too, and like another poster said, those sat, sunday lie ins, paper, breakfast etc times. I need to be on my own too but long to be with someone again but like the op feel i need to be single and am trying to be happy on my own i dont want to find myself in a situation with someone just because i am lonely or want a bf. But is hard, and even more so as my flatmate who i have recently moved in with has a bf so its seems to make me even more aware of what i havent got. Since moving though i am happier, and have had some great nights out, need to get back into exercising to ward off those days of feeling blue.
smudge21 Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Sunday evenings for me. It's like another weekend is over and I've not seen her. Start of another week alone. Dammit!
sleepykitten Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Well Smudge, yes, put like that its pretty depressing-anything that cheered you up this monday? I hope our next sundays are better!!
Milsch Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Sundays are the worst, yeah. It's because there is less going on to distract you. Also, and this might just be my imagination, I left the house yesterday and I swear it felt like every single person I saw out and about was one half of an incredibly happy-seeming couple! I even went to see a movie with my family and it was pretty empty in the cinema, but all the other people were couples (literally all of them!) It reminded me of being able to call her up, see if she wanted to come see a film with me and then walk back to her place afterwards, arm in arm. I'm also finding that now it's getting dark earlier things feel pretty crap too. I think back to last winter with her, ducking into a pub to escape the cold and rain or just deciding to stay in bed cuddling all day before wrapping up and going for a walk in the evening. It really does suck to think she's doing all that stuff with someone else now! But hey, I'm going to come out of this stronger... I hope. I don't want to need someone to be happy. But I do love her and wish I'd actually shown her that; it's so painful to think that I threw it all away. Anyway, sorry to ramble - but yes, the weekends are bad! Especially Sunday...
smudge21 Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Well Smudge, yes, put like that its pretty depressing-anything that cheered you up this monday? I hope our next sundays are better!! I do find talking about this always helps, so coming on here has cheered me and chatting to the odd rum-drinking party girl.
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