missgirl Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 Even how much i hate to admit it, i am very reliant on my boyfriend which we have only been together for 1 year. I used to be a very outgoing girl, who loved socialising and spending time with the girls, but this all has changed in such a short space of time. I got together with ben, and we quickly started to see each other every single day, without a doubt, and if he didnt come and see me or i didnt go and see him, id get myself all upset and feel exceedingly lonely. id go round a friends house but would feel regretts of arranging it as i just want to spend time with him. its got bad and i know it has myself. He goes to college monday-thursday far away, so i like to see him all weekend every weekend, and he doesnt have time to spend time with his friends or do anything he wants to do. im constantly on his back wanting him to text me when im not with him, and call me every night he is at college, im scared he will cheat, even though i know that he is the most loyalise person. i need some advice, instead of focus your mind on something else. if i could i wouldnt be in this mess!
Got it Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Even how much i hate to admit it, i am very reliant on my boyfriend which we have only been together for 1 year. I used to be a very outgoing girl, who loved socialising and spending time with the girls, but this all has changed in such a short space of time. I got together with ben, and we quickly started to see each other every single day, without a doubt, and if he didnt come and see me or i didnt go and see him, id get myself all upset and feel exceedingly lonely. id go round a friends house but would feel regretts of arranging it as i just want to spend time with him. its got bad and i know it has myself. He goes to college monday-thursday far away, so i like to see him all weekend every weekend, and he doesnt have time to spend time with his friends or do anything he wants to do. im constantly on his back wanting him to text me when im not with him, and call me every night he is at college, im scared he will cheat, even though i know that he is the most loyalise person. i need some advice, instead of focus your mind on something else. if i could i wouldnt be in this mess! Oh hon, I understand how you feel and outside of the cheating, felt the same way about my boyfriend in college. We had been dating since high school and saw each other every day up till school started. We ended up at the same school together and spent every minute together. It was very codependent and I got to the point where I couldn't go to the grocery store alone! I couldn't do anything alone because I was so used to him being there. We fought a lot but just cycled around breaking up, getting back together, etc. Please, focus on you and spend time getting to know yourself, developing your own circle of friends, and spend this time developing yourself independent of him. It will give you so much comfort that you aren't depending solely on him and you can be just fine with or without him. It sounds like you are walking down the same path and it isn't healthy. You need to work on your independence, have you considered therapy? What about school for you? What are you doing to develop yourself? What about your job/career skillsets? Taking the time now to learn these new skillsets will pay dividends in the future for you.
Recommended Posts