hustlerose Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 so me and my ex were together for almost a year. he was my first love but the relationship was rocky near the end. all throughout the relationship though i did feel like there was a strong love between us. we lived together for most of the relationship and were extremely close, like best friends. however, he was extremely controlling and jealous, but we are also young so i put it down as immaturity. finally 2 months ago we broke it off for good and the last time we talked was a month ago. unfortanetly it was me making an ass out of myself and begging for him to see me. he told me to stop and that he didn't think it was right, so i did just that. i stopped bothering him and i didn't contact him for a month and then yesterday night he sends me a text saying "guess who i just ran into... happy halloween" why would he message me saying that after he was the one who wanted to remain broken up and wanted no contact?? i'm still deeply hurt by the whole situation, but i have been moving on with my life. i've been going on dates and going out with my friends. i still am really in love with him but the relationship wasn't healthy and this just messes with my head. the last time we talked before this 1 month ago he told me he still loved me but that he couldn't be with me. now he messages me out of the blue to say basically nothing? i don't know what his intentions are and now i'm in a tailspin again. i kept the convo light. i didn't ask him any questions about where he was or what he was doing. i just said oh that's funny. he said something else about the person. i responded with 2 word answers and that was that. does anyone have any ideas why he might have done this? thanks.
mike588 Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 Well this is one of the things NC. It makes the other person miss them. I suggest you just stay NC and don't worry about it. I wouldn't say it MAKES them miss you,, it may if there is any hope at getting back together because each breakup is different.
Author hustlerose Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 we did have a strong bond and we did really love eachother, i still believe that. i believe he does miss me because i know i miss him like hell. i feel like maybe he was trying to start a convo and needed something to say. but he didn't ask me how i was or what i was doing, and i didn't either. it's just strange and messes with my head all over again. i will be keeping no contact, without a doubt. i don't need a repeat of last month where i pour my heart out again and get rejected. i would just like to know why he would send me something so out of the blue and then say nothing else? was he just testing the waters?
ChelseaLS Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 We could all guess until we are blue in the face as to why he texted you. My guess would be that he does miss you. Whether that means he wants to get back together or not is something else. I would stick with what ThatLuckyGirl said, keep with the NC and try not to think about it. See where it goes from there.
Author hustlerose Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 i'm definitely keeping no contact for my OWN sanity. if he rejected me again it would be a whole new heartache and i'm not even over the first one. i also want him to feel what it felt like for me when i didn't hear from him for a month. i'm acting indifferent towards the whole thing just as he did to me. hopefully now he can sit there and wonder why i'm not jumping up and down at the chance to talk to him and now he can drive himself crazy wondering what i'm up to and if i've moved on. whether or not he'll do that, i don't know. my hope is he will and maybe it'll open his eyes. if not then the no contact is yet again for my own sanity and to move on. thanks for the advice ladies! i know that nobody but him knows what's going on his head. 1
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