loyalwife Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 I used to live in a third world country and was born to a very poor family. I was raised and educated by distant relatives through high schools and I work for them as a servant in return. I was treated like a real lowly servant, never allowed to sit at the table and eat with the family, they fed me leftover, I slept in the servant's shed. I was scolded and yelled if I didn't clean to their expectation. All of them treated me like crap except for one of the daughters my age. Her treatment of me was decent, even though there was always an understanding that she was my superior. We were teenagers and she told me everything about her secret which I kept to myself to this day. After h/s I got a job and paid for my own college. I now have a much much better life in the western world and my family in the third world country work hard and are decently rich these days. What make me sad is that the daughter who seems to be fine with our friendship in the past is now not even interested in talking to me. I made multiple attempts to call her, she was always busy she couldn't talk to me. She ignored my emails, I sent her gifts she never thank for. On the night I called her she couldn't talk to me but she had time to post on fb that she doesn't want to be manipulated. My question is, is it possible that people feel manipulated when someone shows them love and kindness. I expect nothing in return from her except friendship and a thank you I recieved the gifts you sent me. I truly love this cousin and her friendship when I had it meant the world to me. I have the feeling that she didn't like the fact that my standard of living is better than hers. When I email her I usually tell her about my life here and also take a lot of interest in her life by asking questions about her life, family etc. I just can't figure out why she isn't willing to communicate with me anymore so I put it out here in a hope that someone will enlighten me. The last time I visited her, her questions were a lot about material stuff e.g like what kind of a car I drive....what kind of motor cycle hubby own. I have a feeling that she can't stand the fact that the girl who used to sleep in the servant's shed is now driving a fancy car when she herself doesn't even know how to ride a bike??? I love her with all my heart and want the best for her. I would not hesitate to take a 20 hours long flight ride if she needs me. When she did her online course offered by the University of the state where I live I spent several hours meeting counsellors for her, phone calls and even advanced her money for tuitions. Now she got the job because of that course.
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