CanCan Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 Hello LS community, New user here , well actually, I've been browsing this forum for a while, just never registered! 2 weeks ago, i made a personal ad on craiglist, not really looking for anyone. I was having a bad night, and just made a post for amusement. It was really short, with only 3 sentences. Now, 2 weeks later I'm still talking to one of the respondent, and I'm starting to really like him. We basically write one email to each other everyday, at first it was quite short, but since our 4th day of correspondence, our email has gotten really long. It now takes me 1 to 2 hours per day to write him something. (and I'm guessing it takes him just as long) We are the same age, early/mid 20's, he's single, no kids. The thing is, we did not exchange any pictures or numbers. I'm starting to be curious as to how he looks like. I feel like he hinted about going to places a few times, but I didn't say hey let's go together, because I hinted too, and was hoping he would ask lol. Also in the first email that he sent to me, he said he would sent a photo in the future, if I'm willing to do the same. I feel that he's interested, because there are innocent flirting going on. I don't know if I should ask for a picture, or if I should ask to hang out, or maybe just keep writing and wait I'm used to having the guy take the lead and just follow along~ Also i really want to take things slow, because I know in the past I've rush into things. Any suggestions? I guess I'm worried, because I read some post on LS that say some people just want an online thing, and maybe i'm just wasting time.
chphan Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 Seems to be that you really want to know what he looks like before going further. And that would probably be a good idea as well since right now you just fantasizing about how he may looks. You going to need to know what he looks like if you want to make things into reality at least this way you know if you still like him in a physical way. If he was fat and unattractive, would you still consider changing emails with him in a romantic way? Hence better get that picture now.
thehead Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 Ask him for a picture and decide if the attraction is there. Otherwise, you really are just wasting time.
ja123 Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 So, essentially you don't know if you're talking to someone in his 20s or 60s. Ask him to go on msn/window live for a cam chat - that's the best way to tell. Otherwise, anyone could use a fake photo. If he refuses, then he's got something to hide. Do this right away before your emotions get involved (as sounds like already).
Michael930t Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 Ive been there before! Get a pic asap! Right now you are fantasing that this guy is very attractive (to you). Im sure the emails are reflecting incredible chemistry but you will be suprised how quickly the emails will stop if one of you isnt physically attracted to the other one. Ive also been there before where you have pics but do nothing but email and text for weeks (no phone calls). Thats also a big mistake. Phone calls and meeting in person soon is the only way to really see if you have a connection/chemistry. Hell, Ive cancelled dates with really attractive women before because talking with them on the phone did absolutely nothing for me.
Author CanCan Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 (edited) thank for all the responses. I took your advice, and now we officially exchanged picture . I'm relief that he looks like a normal person, although not my type, but he's not a turn off either Hopefully, he likes how i look too. @Michael930t: your response scares me. I am not a phone person. I can have great conversation face-to-face, but not so one the phone. Maybe next time you should give the ladies the benefit of the doubt Edited November 2, 2011 by CanCan
Michael930t Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 thank for all the responses. I took your advice, and now we officially exchanged picture . I'm relief that he looks like a normal person, although not my type, but he's not a turn off either Hopefully, he likes how i look too. @Michael930t: your response scares me. I am not a phone person. I can have great conversation face-to-face, but not so one the phone. Maybe next time you should give the ladies the benefit of the doubt Normally, talking on the phone prior to meeting is a part of the process. Dating isnt easy (especially if you are shy) but talking on the phone is the last step (after emailing) before you meet. I understand some people arent great on the phone but (for most) its part of the "weeding out process". Glad to hear you finally exchanged pictures. I would love to hear about how you feel about each other after a date or two. Good luck!
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