majomparade Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 So let me start off by saying that my ex girlfriend an I both attend the same college. We first start dating over a year ago. She really liked me for a long time but I made her wait because I was too busy to be in a relationship. She waited an entire year. I asked her to dinner and she said yes we started dating. A little bit about her, first off she likes riding horses and is very good, she is a chemistry major and a redhead. She lives in NJ and came from a small community. Her brother is a recent grad from college, her dad volunteers for the fire department and her mom works at a school. She is strong willed and tells people what is one her mind. About me, I am a double major in engineering. I commute, play piano, blow glass, play soccer and was president of chem club. I am busy but not impossibly busy. Our relationship: I was the first person she had ever dated, she liked 1 person before me but he was not interested in her. I took things quite slowly with her due to this fact. We began to grow close. We never argued, not even once in our relationship. We began to spend time at each others houses over college breaks and our families met several times. The families got together and had a good time, it was a good match. She always felt comfortable around me and allowed me to become intimate with her. We never had sex but she was quite comfortable with me touching her. She didn't however never feel comfortable about giving back much, always kissing was no problem and some touching but not a whole lot. She felt quite bad about this but I told her it was okay that I cared about her more than just for sexual reasons. We were together a year and I decided to buy her a ring to celebrate our time together. She picked and was excited about this. Soon after our 1 year she let me preform oral sex on her, we still did not have regular sex. All seemed well, she was nervous but I moved slowly with her. A few weeks later I did it again. Following that I went to her house to go to a wedding, this was the second wedding I went to with her. We had a good time at the wedding. I spent 4 days with her. We came back to our university and she got a flat tire. I fixed it and picked up the bill. Two days later she said, she "didn't feel the magic anymore" and just like that we broke up. She acted completely fine. She said she wanted to be friends, I said sure. I wrote her a brief letting saying I was okay with the breakup. I gave her the silent treatment for the next month. I then asked her out to a casual friendly lunch and she rejected my offer saying she didn't feel comfortable around me. I gave her 2 more weeks of no contact. I then started to show up around her, laughing and enjoying myself. I even threw a snowball at her and she playfully responded. I know for a fact, she liked another guy when she broke up with me and she talked to him a lot. I let it NOT bother me. She couldn't get him so she moved on to another guy that she liked for is physical appearance. At this point I think she realizes he doesn't like her int he same way back. I asked her lunch last week and this time she said yes, we had a nice lunch, it was awkward at first but quickly returned to the way it use to be. I was feeling pretty good. We left and then she said she needed to ask me something awkward. Turns out my close friend somehow learned that I had oral sex with her and he told his girlfriend (her roommate) that we broke up because she didn't give me a bj back. I told her that I never told him this, which I didn't and that wasn't the reason at all. After that she told me "You are the most perfect boyfriend in the world" ...very confusing, first off she never ever uses the word "perfect" she says is doesn't exist. She got very close to me when saying this and literally looked as if she wanted nothing more than to kiss me and have me hold her in my arms. I mean she really really looked this way. Then she said, it was her and the way she felt, that was the reason, that I was in no way the problem. Now I am utterly confused, winter break is coming up and I don't know what to do at all. In really love her, I mean I would take her back in an instant and would have no problem marrying her. That's how I feel about her. Still after a month and a half, I am not mad at her in any way, hurt, yes but not mad. She was honest with me. She also said, before we broke up, that she really felt strongly and loved me too. We really had the relationship that most people long for and I was wondering what people though about should I go after her, move on, or anything.
LadyRhyme&Reason Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 The fact that she went for a guy for his physical appearance tells me a lot about her. Sounds like she is super immature and doesn't know how to handle a serious relationship. Said people are a pain in the rear end when you are mature for your age and people in your age bracket may not be as much. I wouldn't take her back if she came back. She'll just end up leaving again. People who are treated right get bored because most people like drama or want a bad boy because they think they are more exciting. She will probably get with such a guy and karma will bite her in the ass. Don't take her back. Find someone who is a little more mature.
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