tigressA Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 Oooohh. To be perfectly honest, I would not have been happy if I knew my SO was fantasizing about women he knows IRL. Porn is okay, it was really just all the anti-porn threads that were getting to me. I'm not saying what you ladies do is wrong, per se, just that it would have made me unhappy personally. Do your SOs know, and would you have been okay with it the other way around? Again, not judging, just curious. I really don't think I could ever tell him; he'd more than likely get upset. If I found out he did the same thing it would bother me at first, but then I would get over it. I think it's natural to feel insecure about that at first.
Ruby Slippers Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 I masturbate and think about my man. Only occasionally will I let my mind wander to someone else, but it's never as hot as thinking about him. When single, I masturbate and think about different guys, depending on my mood. Sometimes I think about one guy the whole time, and sometimes I switch it up throughout and think about different experiences with different guys. These can be exes or my recent ex-FWB, guys I know and think are sexy, guys whose profiles I browsed on dating sites, or totally imaginary dream guys of the future. Anything goes, really. I'm hardly ever turned on by porn and never watch it.
AHardDaysNight Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 So the consensus is that most women masturbate to their imagination, and men turn to porn. So why the anti-porn crusade? It's like you expect us to all be celibate, even within our own imaginations! If it's not porn I look at, I will look at random found clothed girls on the internet, pictures of celebrity girls, or celebrity fakes. I doubt that I'm cheating on my non-existent girlfriend with Emma Watson, or Avril Lavigne!
AHardDaysNight Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 (edited) Meh, tasteless joke. Doesn't belong on this website. Edited October 31, 2011 by AHardDaysNight
Feelin Frisky Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 ok, you got me. I jerk off. Occasionally porn can get me hot but I'm picky and I enjoy it more when I just fantasize. I'm straight but I like my fanny messed with when I blast off so occasionally I use a little prostate vibrator or the egg. Don't tell anyone though. I'm private.
OnyxSnowfall Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 (edited) AHardDaysNight - Pornography and the imagination are not equivalent - there are enormous differences. Also, some women stated they viewed pornography (even if seldom). My boyfriend doesn't view pornography (he's an advocate of imagination [we share similar views in regards to porn as well], and I enjoy the fantasies he's described to me). -- Feelin Frisky - Lol. The prostrate shouldn't be neglected Edited October 31, 2011 by OnyxSnowfall
AHardDaysNight Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 I read celebrity sex stories...does that count? I don't lack imagination. I find it ridiculous that you claim porn watchers have no imagination.
OnyxSnowfall Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 I don't lack imagination. I find it ridiculous that you claim porn watchers have no imagination. Where is this claim you speak of? For one, people do and have both. Although, I have noticed --- those who prefer reading erotica over visual stimulation tend to be exceptionally more creative and the like.......... but that isn't to say it's because of the material either way --- it's likely due to multiple things they are more prone towards as a whole. Habits and refining............. but you tell me what's more stimulating --- reading a book or watching TV? Anyway, this is off-topic. I made no such claim.
aj22one Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 AHardDaysNight - Pornography and the imagination are not equivalent - there are enormous differences. Also, some women stated they viewed pornography (even if seldom). My boyfriend doesn't view pornography (he's an advocate of imagination [we share similar views in regards to porn as well], and I enjoy the fantasies he's described to me). -- Feelin Frisky - Lol. The prostrate shouldn't be neglected Good for you two. Some people don't like porn, some people do. Neither is morally flawed because of it. Just a difference of opinion, that's all.
OnyxSnowfall Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Good for you two. Some people don't like porn, some people do. Neither is morally flawed because of it. Just a difference of opinion, that's all I think it depends upon what kind of pornography -- If you think all types of porn are "okay/morally right" to use - I feel perfectly fine deeming you morally unsound Regardless, sex itself can be abused, with or without the aid of pornography heh.
daphne Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Oooohh. To be perfectly honest, I would not have been happy if I knew my SO was fantasizing about women he knows IRL. Porn is okay, it was really just all the anti-porn threads that were getting to me. I'm not saying what you ladies do is wrong, per se, just that it would have made me unhappy personally. Do your SOs know, and would you have been okay with it the other way around? Again, not judging, just curious. I don't think there's anything necessarily untoward about someone fantasizing about people you know in real life. Honestly, I do that when I'm in a relationship. And it's usually with guys I would never, ever, ever want to date or be intimate with. It's just a fantasy. And personally I don't want those censored.
daphne Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 ok, you got me. I jerk off. Occasionally porn can get me hot but I'm picky and I enjoy it more when I just fantasize. I'm straight but I like my fanny messed with when I blast off so occasionally I use a little prostate vibrator or the egg. Don't tell anyone though. I'm private. If most guys were honest they'd admit they like it too. But fear of looking gay gets the better of them.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 If most guys were honest they'd admit they like it too. But fear of looking gay gets the better of them. Guys who think that way aren't sure of themselves really. And not to say too much but women have been almost universally good sports in that area.
Author Els Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 Yeah, guys who are in denial about prostate pleasure really are just missing out on something for no reason IMO. Too bad for them. Daphne, I was not saying that fantasizing about RL guys is wrong, merely that for some instinctive, not necessarily logical reason, I would not be happy with an SO doing it, so I don't do it. I think Tigress gets the idea.
Author Els Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 Yes, he knows. He's fine with it, and enjoys hearing my dirty thoughts whenever I'm willing to share (whether it is about him or not!). I know he fantasizes about others, too, on occasion. It doesn't bother me. That's pretty cool of you. How do you get past the instinctive reaction of jealousy towards that, or did you just never feel it?
Eternal Sunshine Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Ummm I watch porn that enhances my fantasy. When I had a crush on my boss and my former lecturer, I kept looking for student/teacher type of porn
Eternal Sunshine Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 P.S. Nowdays I fantasize about my boyfriend and rewind back to some of the hotter sex we had.
Star Gazer Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Phone sex. Ummm I watch porn that enhances my fantasy. But he's not allowed to watch porn?
Citizen Erased Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Phone sex. ^ This. I don't really need to fantasize. I can think of what I'm going to wear the next day, or if I forgot to push the chair in after I ate dinner and still get to where I need to go.
Eternal Sunshine Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 (edited) Phone sex. But he's not allowed to watch porn? No, he is now allowed to watch porn when I am not at the apartment. I just feel icky when he hid in the bathroom while I was in another room. I don't really mind porn as long as he doesn't do it instead of sex with me. I offered this modified porn criteria myself (he didn't ask for it). He even asked me if I am 100% sure that I won't be bothered. It's actually totally bizarre to me that some women think porn is cheating... I would much rather that he looked at porn than to fantasize about his co-worker or something. Sorry for threadjack Els. Edited October 31, 2011 by Eternal Sunshine
xxoo Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 That's pretty cool of you. How do you get past the instinctive reaction of jealousy towards that, or did you just never feel it? Never felt it, and I'm not sure why not??? From the beginning, we've been one of those "I want to know everything about you!" couples---and everything includes if you are attracted to others, and who. He is very predictable in who he's attracted to He's got a type--and I'm solidly representative of it.
OnyxSnowfall Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 (edited) I offered this modified porn criteria myself (he didn't ask for it). He even asked me if I am 100% sure that I won't be bothered. It's actually totally bizarre to me that some women think porn is cheating... I would much rather that he looked at porn than to fantasize about his co-worker or something. Sorry for threadjack Els. You know men are notorious for replacing/imagining porn stars as a female they know IRL, right? Heh. Doesn't mean he's still not fantasizing about his co-worker, it's possible he just has a better aid to pretend when he's watching porn (and with all the options out there, he can find a female that looks near identical to her/them, hmm...). Just saying... I've known numerous men to state that they usually imagine one of the ladies in porn as their girlfriend / "friend" / love and or infatuation interest etc. Edited October 31, 2011 by OnyxSnowfall
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