LSgirl Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 (edited) I know this sounds dumb but my ex bf of 10 months broke up with me exactly 1 week from today (he's 27 im 26). He rarely goes on Facebook, he posts maybe 1 or 2 things a week, usually an article or a video of something funny or political. He accesses his Facebook from his iPhone so he may not usually see the "in a relationship" part, but he hasn't deleted me or taken off that he's in a relationship with me. I know you will all say that I should just either delete him or not stalk his page, but I can't seem to help it. It's Day 7 of NC and I can't help but think all these "maybes" such as, maybe he hasn't done it because he misses me and is not ready to take it down. However, of course the real explanation I can come up with is that since he rarely goes on it and just hasn't crossed his mind to take it down. I'm waiting for him to change the status since he broke up with me. I have shown no Facebook activity on my wall. Friends will post on my page but I don't comment (i message them back) i just dont want him knowing anything I'm doing. I'll be in downtown tonight for a halloween block party, he'll be there but at a different venue and don't think we'll run into each other. I don't even feel like going, I only slept 4 hours last night, even tried taking a sleeping pill but I stayed wide awake. It just feels worse as more time goes on. Why am i wasting my time thinking about him when this should be about my healing and accepting it's over. My heart has not caught up with my mind. Edited October 30, 2011 by LSgirl
HappyFlower Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 I'm waiting for him to change the status since he broke up with me. I have shown no Facebook activity on my wall. Friends will post on my page but I don't comment (i message them back) i just dont want him knowing anything I'm doing. Thats why you 'can't' delete or block him. Of course you can, you just don't want to. If he broke up with you, YOU should change your status, why wait for him to do it? It just shows him that you're still hanging on. If you don't want him to know your business, change it and delete him. I changed my status and hour after my ex broke up with me...left it long enough that he'd seen it (he didn't change his status to single, he made his status private), and then I deleted & blocked him. I found out last week that this really pissed him off, as he 'wanted to stay FB friends'. Tough.
Lucy2011 Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 I totally sympathise with you. I split with my ex 2 weeks ago and he's still on my FB and Skype (we spent hours talking on Skype). He dumped me and hasn't deleted me from either. I ended up deactivating my FB as I couldn't bear the 'happy snaps' he's posted since the break up. Its almost as if he's trying to show me he's fine without me. He's posted loads since we split, really minor rubbish. I could delete him from both, but I don't want to. He should delete me. I rarely use FB anyway so thats no loss. Its hard though on Skype when he pops up as online and I know he won't talk to me.
crackster Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 My ex keep it on for over and week and it given me hope! bad idea i should of took it off! she took it off and hurt me more! now its been 2 months!
DustinMilk Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 I'm new here but I couldn't help but understand your pain. I've been through similar things myself and honestly, depending on how long it was, it takes time, time, and more time. I was reading earlier and this thread helped me a bit, I hope it can help you too http://relationshipsforum.org/index.php?topic=2.0 Take care and keep your chin up
Riseabove Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 (edited) I would advice you to be the one to end your relationship on facebook. My ex stayed "in a relationship" with me for over a month before I decided I had enough of it. The reason I kept it there for so long was of course that I had hopes that she was regretting the break-up. When I asked her why she did not end it on fb she said it was because it was sad. I dont doubt that she thought it was sad, but I think the main reason was that she was embarrased to show her friends and family that it did not work out, and that she had not told everyone about the breakup yet. Selfish reasons of course. I asked her if she doubted her decision about the breakup, her answer was that she would not give me false hope. I replied that her fb status gave me false hope, so I basically said goodbye to her and ended the fb relationship status. Trust me, it feels so much better to take control over the situation than to let your ex have the control. Edited October 31, 2011 by Riseabove
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