Alabama277 Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Ex and I broke up in June from a four year relationship. He came back to me a month later saying it was a mistake and wanted to try again. After a few days of trying, I found out that he had been hooking up with a girl. He told me she was a "whatever" girl, it didn't mean anything, and he was just living the single life and she was putting out. Things got complicated so I broke it off for good and started NC. Fast forward to now, 4 months post the first break up, he has been dating this "whatever" girl ever since. From what I hear they're together all the time. I feel pretty horribly that I've been replaced so quickly. I was under the impression that a rebound wouldn't last this long. Do you think it is just a rebound, or was he lying to me about his feelings for her? I can't help but feel bitter.
AlisaMarie Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Ex and I broke up in June from a four year relationship. He came back to me a month later saying it was a mistake and wanted to try again. After a few days of trying, I found out that he had been hooking up with a girl. He told me she was a "whatever" girl, it didn't mean anything, and he was just living the single life and she was putting out. Things got complicated so I broke it off for good and started NC. Fast forward to now, 4 months post the first break up, he has been dating this "whatever" girl ever since. From what I hear they're together all the time. I feel pretty horribly that I've been replaced so quickly. I was under the impression that a rebound wouldn't last this long. Do you think it is just a rebound, or was he lying to me about his feelings for her? I can't help but feel bitter. My ex has a "whatever" girl too. We broke up 3 times because of her. I am sorry for what you are going through. Nothing feels good about knowing some girl that meant NOTHING to them is happily taking your side of the bed at their apartment. Cut ties, ignore texts and calls at all costs... and don't let him back. Once the "whatever" girl makes her mark, it's not worth your dignity to be in a love triangle. Trust me.
Author Alabama277 Posted October 29, 2011 Author Posted October 29, 2011 My ex has a "whatever" girl too. We broke up 3 times because of her. I am sorry for what you are going through. Nothing feels good about knowing some girl that meant NOTHING to them is happily taking your side of the bed at their apartment. Cut ties, ignore texts and calls at all costs... and don't let him back. Once the "whatever" girl makes her mark, it's not worth your dignity to be in a love triangle. Trust me. I'm so sorry you're going through this as well. And you're completely right. After a few weeks after the second break up, I told him I was happily dating someone else (although I am not, just trying to save face in this situation) and wished him the best, and then cut ties and all communication. He has contacted me trying to hang out on the weekends, and I've ignored his attempts completely. I hope you're doing well coping with something like this.
AlisaMarie Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 I'm so sorry you're going through this as well. And you're completely right. After a few weeks after the second break up, I told him I was happily dating someone else (although I am not, just trying to save face in this situation) and wished him the best, and then cut ties and all communication. He has contacted me trying to hang out on the weekends, and I've ignored his attempts completely. I hope you're doing well coping with something like this. It's so hard...last time he left "whatever" girl to come back to me... he called me late at night and was sitting on my porch wanting to talk. I knew he probably just left her house... errr. Everything inside me told me to say "I am not alone tonight so I suggest you leave my property." I didn't though. I ran right to him. I am sorry, but I forgot that I was not a doormat... too many times. Your ex probably feels competition since you told him you were seeing someone and he'll try. Even at your most lonely dark moments... don't let him. This has to pass. For both of us. Someday we will be able to tell them we are happily seeing someone new. They won't be "whatever" dudes... they will be the real thing. Something we have obviously been missing out on.
ffw Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Does it matter? You broke up with him bcs of the same girl. Also, remember when couples breaks up they are single again. So, its not your business whether he slept or not with this girl.
Author Alabama277 Posted October 29, 2011 Author Posted October 29, 2011 Does it matter? You broke up with him bcs of the same girl. Also, remember when couples breaks up they are single again. So, its not your business whether he slept or not with this girl. No, I didn't break up with him because of this girl. He was still "confused" and I didn't want to be his back up so I left. It really doesn't matter, but sometimes I have my weak moments and this is something that I wonder sometimes.
ozdeano Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 Same thing happened to me, except I am a guy and my GF cheated on me and is now with someone else (not the person she cheated on me with). Its hard to take, even when cheated on there is still heartbreak, but you just have to be strong, think about how much better off you are and how much more your worth than someone like that.
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