Author ThinkPink218 Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 wow! its great you got a day without looking at his twitter .. for me today is a week haha and i was going to look at his fb when i thought of you and about this thread!!! ... i also did what LovelyDaze said about imagine the terrible things i could find and i said to myself i didnt want to see that!! .. no no no .. plus it was the halloween weekend and no i do not want to see those things.. im proud of myself because i was strong enough and i called a friend and talked for a while instead.. yeah! .. now i can go to bed feeling good .. we can do it ThinkPink218!!! A week? That's great! You just have to keep it up now. We will be so much better and stronger for this. It takes so much self control, but we can do it!!
radiodarcy Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 (edited) yes we can!! i too would obsess over looking at the ex's facebook. i literally pulled it up every five minutes (probably more often than that ) until i finally got tired of feeling like crap seeing him post flirty comments on other girls walls. or talking about how much fun he was having on the party circuit. to be honest, the pain i experienced from seeing that was enough to kill any morbid curiosity i might have had in sneaking a peek at his facebook. that was close to a year ago and i still have no desire to look at it. ignorance really can be bliss at times. so just stay strong and don't look. once you start feeling better, you're not going to want to undo that feeling but looking. and the urge will go away altogether. Edited October 31, 2011 by radiodarcy
AlisaMarie Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Yes! Ignorance is TRULY sweet bliss! What you don't know really won't hurt you. I wish I could undo things that I have seen and know.
Author ThinkPink218 Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 Yep the times that I did look would make me so angry that I didn't want to look anymore, I think I was just so used to looking and knowing what he was up to that made me continue to look. Once I break this addiction, I think I'll be good. Ive accepted the fact that we're over and don't communicate, I guess twitter is the one thing that makes me feel connected and that's why I hold on but I'm so happy to have everyone's support. We all will get through this! And when someone mentions our ex's name we will say "who?" haha
Marianis Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 And when someone mentions our ex's name we will say "who?" haha wow! ... i can not wait for that to happen!! if they are happy now .. we will have our chance to be super duper happy!! 8 days now!! YEAH!
Author ThinkPink218 Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 Yea we will but we have to get ourselves together first. I almost got the urge to look today but then I realized I didn't care. Guess that's progress right? And I'm thinking of him less and less because of it, feels good. Now for me to keep this up!
Author ThinkPink218 Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 The urges are becoming less and less but theyre still there. And I slipped up and went to his page the other day BUT upon arriving I didn't even care to look anymore and got off. This is progress right?
Marianis Posted November 2, 2011 Posted November 2, 2011 Yeah .. we are progressing! .. but mm i still open my email with the hope to find one from him! its sad but whatever ... i havent look either and i still dont want to but yesterday i had like a breakdown and cried .. because i was thinking .. why should i pretend i dont care about him if i really really do.. i do want to know about him .. ... but .. the thing is .. i should just give it time.. right now .. i can not know anything about him cause it hurts.. maybe someday wont hurt anymore and we could talk again .. i dont know! :S keep being strong and dont look! its better that way!! .. and it will become a habit not to look if you dont do it for 21 days .. hahaha.. have a good day!
Author ThinkPink218 Posted November 2, 2011 Author Posted November 2, 2011 Yeah .. we are progressing! .. but mm i still open my email with the hope to find one from him! its sad but whatever ... i havent look either and i still dont want to but yesterday i had like a breakdown and cried .. because i was thinking .. why should i pretend i dont care about him if i really really do.. i do want to know about him .. ... but .. the thing is .. i should just give it time.. right now .. i can not know anything about him cause it hurts.. maybe someday wont hurt anymore and we could talk again .. i dont know! :S keep being strong and dont look! its better that way!! .. and it will become a habit not to look if you dont do it for 21 days .. hahaha.. have a good day! I used to expect to hear from him, but now I don't anymore and I think it's better that way. It never ended good when we did communicate because of the feelings that I still had. Time and space are essential right now until I'm completely over it! I'm starting to really see and realize why we weren't good for each other although I thought we were. As far as your situation, I don't think it's that you're pretending not to care when you want to know, but just realize that in order to get better you shouldn't know as it'll only stir up feelings you still have. Over time when you're over it and if you want to it might be possible to be friends and talk, but you need time to heal I'm going to continue to be strong as well, as long as I don't hear from him. He has a way of coming back to be "nice" and then I end up back at square one because I want to seem mature by responding smh. Thanks though, we can do it!
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