ThinkPink218 Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 At this point, I just want to completely forget all about my ex and not look back (yes, I'm that pissed) but I have a huge addiction to checking his twitter page (it's not private so I can just go on anytime I want) but it only further annoys me. Knowing he is moving on and happy and not thinking or even caring about how he's hurt me or how he was wrong. I know this is bad for me and I honestly just want to forget about him, but breaking this addiction is so hard! Any suggestions?? I just get the urge to look and can't control myself smh
Milsch Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 I'm sure there's a way to block him from your account, non? And then just stay signed-in. Or, you know, good ol' fashioned will power... you know it's not doing you any good.
AlisaMarie Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 At this point, I just want to completely forget all about my ex and not look back (yes, I'm that pissed) but I have a huge addiction to checking his twitter page (it's not private so I can just go on anytime I want) but it only further annoys me. Knowing he is moving on and happy and not thinking or even caring about how he's hurt me or how he was wrong. I know this is bad for me and I honestly just want to forget about him, but breaking this addiction is so hard! Any suggestions?? I just get the urge to look and can't control myself smh OMG! I know how you feel. The only thing you can do is ... NOT LOOK! Easier said than done, it's an obsession. You know it is only going to make you feel worse. I used to try to figure stuff out through facebook and sometimes seeing things reinforced that it was OVER for me... sometimes it made me want to go to sleep and not wake up. Also, if someone is moved on (or claiming to be) they are going to write positive things and put up happy great pictures. You don't know what he's really feeling inside. Checking public profile sites is technically breaking no contact. You're only hurting yourself. Try to just stay off Twitter... I know it's so hard.
Author ThinkPink218 Posted October 29, 2011 Author Posted October 29, 2011 Well I haven't even been getting on my account. I don't really have the desire to tweet and I know that anything I do tweet will be to get his attention since he follows me so I've been staying off. I'm doing good with that but because his page is public, its so easy to just log on to the Internet and look at his tweets and I do, but I shouldn't. I want to forget him but I continue to get the urges to look at his page and see what he's up to smh. Willpower is hard!! This addiction is so real smh
Author ThinkPink218 Posted October 29, 2011 Author Posted October 29, 2011 Alisa yes, you're so right and I've felt the same way. It's weird though. I know we are pretty much over and done and that's why I just want to forget him and not look back, but breaking this obsession/addiction to looking is so hard!! I know that if I can break it, I'll get better because we don't contact, it's just too easy to look!
AlisaMarie Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Alisa yes, you're so right and I've felt the same way. It's weird though. I know we are pretty much over and done and that's why I just want to forget him and not look back, but breaking this obsession/addiction to looking is so hard!! I know that if I can break it, I'll get better because we don't contact, it's just too easy to look! Oh I know girl! I blocked social websites because sometimes what you don't know WON'T hurt you. But I was going crazy and started googling his name, then the other girls! It just makes you feel more pitiful.
Author ThinkPink218 Posted October 29, 2011 Author Posted October 29, 2011 Gahhhhhhhh!! I have to try will power, but it's so hard How do you break an addiction like this?
AlisaMarie Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Gahhhhhhhh!! I have to try will power, but it's so hard How do you break an addiction like this? Tell yourself this... I am NOT going to look for 3 months. In this 3 months worry about you! Obsess over something that makes you feel happy...not sad. Then in 3 months... you're not going to want to look- and if you do... you won't care what's on there.
Author ThinkPink218 Posted October 29, 2011 Author Posted October 29, 2011 Thanks girl, you're right! I'm really going to try.
AlisaMarie Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Thanks girl, you're right! I'm really going to try. Or if you feel the urge just come on here and throw up a post about it... and you're welcome. Everything will be ok!
Author ThinkPink218 Posted October 29, 2011 Author Posted October 29, 2011 @thatluckygirl yeah, it's just way easier said than done. Breaking an addiction is so hard, but I'm going to do my best to try and find something else to do instead. @alisa thanks girl! Gahh, wish me luck!
Marianis Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 i know its hard not to look .. i know that the need of knowing something .. whatever it is .. about him .. or just wanting to know you still have a connection with him is huge.. but you have to realize that if you look and find things you dont need to know will hurt you terribly.. i used to look at myexs fb and his new gfs everytime i could... but to look made more damage to me and i felt super bad after i did it. Last week i decided to block them and close all my accounts... my friend changed the pssword of them so i couldnt even open them and even thoug it was really hard and paintfull to loose that "connetion" ... i have been feeling much better!! i mean if he is happy now .. you should try to start feeling happy to... at the end of the day you are the one that can change how you feel now and start feeling better.. and by not looking at his twitter today ... then tomorrow... with time you wont have the need to look anymore. good luck
Author ThinkPink218 Posted October 29, 2011 Author Posted October 29, 2011 @thatluckygirl thanks for that link! I'm going to try it and see if it helps. @marianis I don't know why I have the urge to keep looking and know what he's up to and how he's doing when at the same time I just want to forget all about him. It's just breaking this addiction that's hard. I'm so used to looking now that it's become a habit smh. I know it's bad for me and I always feel worse after. Don't know why I'm doing this to myself. Will power is hard, but I really am going to try and make myself look at something else when I get the urge.
Marianis Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 @marianis I don't know why I have the urge to keep looking and know what he's up to and how he's doing when at the same time I just want to forget all about him. It's just breaking this addiction that's hard. I'm so used to looking now that it's become a habit smh. I know it's bad for me and I always feel worse after. Don't know why I'm doing this to myself. Will power is hard, but I really am going to try and make myself look at something else when I get the urge. i tried like 10000 times .. and when i didnt have anything to do .. i just went to fb and try to look at it.. he blocked me a while ago so i had 3 different accounts.. i could just see his profile pic.. or his gfs.. ... .. i even look for her on google .. i found her twitter acccount .. and pics.. and her sisters.. a lot of things and i dont even know her.. i just wanted to see how happy he is with her... and i needed to know something the minimun thing about him!! .. even if i knew it was bad for me... just try.. and if you need to look then do something good for you instead like .. chat with a friend or go for a walk.. take a shower.. hoho.. whatever it is that make you feel good.. then if you really really need to look .... try harder not to.. you are the only one that can stop you from looking.. its hard not to have that link anymore but hey .. its better for you! .. and you are the only one that matters now! .. hope it helps!!! wish you luck ...
Author ThinkPink218 Posted October 30, 2011 Author Posted October 30, 2011 Day 3 of NC and Day 1 of trying not to look at his twitter. Let's hope I keep this up!!
AlisaMarie Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 Day 3 of NC and Day 1 of trying not to look at his twitter. Let's hope I keep this up!! How are you hanging in there pink? I am cheering for you! Day 3 nc for me too... I am not going to really count though because I feel as if I am just obsessing over it. Washing my hands. Pretend he doesn't exist! If he doesn't exist... he has no twitter! <3
Author ThinkPink218 Posted October 30, 2011 Author Posted October 30, 2011 How are you hanging in there pink? I am cheering for you! Day 3 nc for me too... I am not going to really count though because I feel as if I am just obsessing over it. Washing my hands. Pretend he doesn't exist! If he doesn't exist... he has no twitter! <3 I'm doing okay. The urges are still there, but there becoming less and less. I keep telling myself to just forget about him and that looking at his page won't help me do that. Really just focused on getting myself together overall. Thanks for cheering for me. I'm cheering for you as well!
LovelyDaze Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 I'm doing okay. The urges are still there, but there becoming less and less. I keep telling myself to just forget about him and that looking at his page won't help me do that. Really just focused on getting myself together overall. Thanks for cheering for me. I'm cheering for you as well! Remember the good feeling of pride you have right now s compared to the yucky feeling you have after you have looked at your ex's twitter. Twitter & Facebook have become sad tools for some to make one's life appear shinier than it really is. Even if you saw some things that made you sad, don't worry. No one's life is that perfect all of the time-every single day. The times that your ex is sad, misses you, feels unsure, is lonely, and/or is bitter...they are NOT gonna post that for the world to know. Don't believe everything you see on Twitter or FB.
Author ThinkPink218 Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 Remember the good feeling of pride you have right now s compared to the yucky feeling you have after you have looked at your ex's twitter. Twitter & Facebook have become sad tools for some to make one's life appear shinier than it really is. Even if you saw some things that made you sad, don't worry. No one's life is that perfect all of the time-every single day. The times that your ex is sad, misses you, feels unsure, is lonely, and/or is bitter...they are NOT gonna post that for the world to know. Don't believe everything you see on Twitter or FB. Yea, I feel a lot better when I don't look vs when I do. And I know his life is far from perfect right now, but I know he is involved with another girl and happy with her whereas I'm not involved with anyone so I often get upset wondering why he gave up on me and tries with her but then feel good when I see (from his twitter) that they are having problems, that's why it's just best I stay off his page completely!
LovelyDaze Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Yea, I feel a lot better when I don't look vs when I do. And I know his life is far from perfect right now, but I know he is involved with another girl and happy with her whereas I'm not involved with anyone so I often get upset wondering why he gave up on me and tries with her but then feel good when I see (from his twitter) that they are having problems, that's why it's just best I stay off his page completely! Trust me, I did dabble in keeping my FB with my ex while he glorified his new girl. It hurt like hell knowing he seemed to invest more energy into his new relationship. It took two years, but my ex found out she was sleeping around on him and they are now legally divorced. The best thing I did was block (then deactivated) my FB where I had no clue what my ex was doing. You may be seeing them have trouble every now and again but that is only giving you temporary joy. The times that your ex WILL post of happier times will put you back at square one. Love yourself not to go through those terrible lows. You deserve more. Impress yourself by staying off of his Twitter.
Author ThinkPink218 Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 Trust me, I did dabble in keeping my FB with my ex while he glorified his new girl. It hurt like hell knowing he seemed to invest more energy into his new relationship. It took two years, but my ex found out she was sleeping around on him and they are now legally divorced. The best thing I did was block (then deactivated) my FB where I had no clue what my ex was doing. You may be seeing them have trouble every now and again but that is only giving you temporary joy. The times that your ex WILL post of happier times will put you back at square one. Love yourself not to go through those terrible lows. You deserve more. Impress yourself by staying off of his Twitter. Yea that's what hurts the most. I feel like he puts sooo much more energy into her than he ever did with me and their not even in a relationship! And yep I get a temporary joy when they are doing bad and then feel terrible when they are doing good. I want to forget about him though i have so many regrets with him so I'm just doing my best to stay off. Thanks
LovelyDaze Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 A trick I learned during my not-so-good days was this: Whenever I got the urge to look my ex up on Twitter or FB, I would first get up into another room and imagine what terrible things I'd end up seeing also imagining my ex would be cocky enough to know I could see it. I'd picture his face gloating at my sadness. Think about that. Our exes WANT us to be sad, feeling horrible, and wanting to go nuts with jealousy. That is not love in any way shape or form. Love cares about the well being of another. Love doesn't want to make you cry in pain...ever.
Author ThinkPink218 Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 A trick I learned during my not-so-good days was this: Whenever I got the urge to look my ex up on Twitter or FB, I would first get up into another room and imagine what terrible things I'd end up seeing also imagining my ex would be cocky enough to know I could see it. I'd picture his face gloating at my sadness. Think about that. Our exes WANT us to be sad, feeling horrible, and wanting to go nuts with jealousy. That is not love in any way shape or form. Love cares about the well being of another. Love doesn't want to make you cry in pain...ever. Very very true!! And thanks for the trick. Everytime I get the urge to look, I'll just imagine a time where I felt really low for looking or the hurtful things he has said to me and treated me. I'm sure eventually I won't even care about what he is talking about on there
Marianis Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 wow! its great you got a day without looking at his twitter .. for me today is a week haha and i was going to look at his fb when i thought of you and about this thread!!! ... i also did what LovelyDaze said about imagine the terrible things i could find and i said to myself i didnt want to see that!! .. no no no .. plus it was the halloween weekend and no i do not want to see those things.. im proud of myself because i was strong enough and i called a friend and talked for a while instead.. yeah! .. now i can go to bed feeling good .. we can do it ThinkPink218!!!
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