AlisaMarie Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Why is it that you are so tough at the beginning of the breakup yet a couple days/weeks later you are hurting more than day 1? Does anybody else experience feelings like this? My progress actually goes backwards. I miss him so much and everyday it gets stronger and stronger no matter what I do. I always enforce NC to heal... so what's my problem?
LSgirl Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 I'm like that too. The first few days were alright, I kept thinking "oh, he'll call, that can't be the last time I hear from him" then more days go by, and you think he's not really coming back so it starts to set in. But that's just me. Everyday is one more day of feeling lonely without him and thinking he's really moved on. It's hard to stay strong at times, but I have been NC since the breakup - 7 days today.
fenderjames Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Yes totally true . From the dumpee POV I think at first its denial . You know , he/she will call blah blah blah ... the more NC then it starts sinking in and hurting more . You get sad , angry , create situations in your head and think your crazy . Once acceptance is achieved ( I think its diff for everyone , but NC is crucial ) I think then thats when the real healing begins . Right now its just hurt and more hurt .
Author AlisaMarie Posted October 29, 2011 Author Posted October 29, 2011 I'm like that too. The first few days were alright, I kept thinking "oh, he'll call, that can't be the last time I hear from him" then more days go by, and you think he's not really coming back so it starts to set in. But that's just me. Everyday is one more day of feeling lonely without him and thinking he's really moved on. It's hard to stay strong at times, but I have been NC since the breakup - 7 days today. Well besides a text from him about getting things straightened out on a phone plan, I have been NC since Tuesday night/Wednesday morning. I sent him one last text calling him out on something that caused the end (again). I will never know if my ex truly moved on because he won't help himself. He is bi-polar to the max and will not seek any professional help. His loved ones suffer and the ones that don't know worship him (he sells his personality to win others over). He even admitted that only the people he truly loves ever sees his psychological problems... wow... lucky lucky me. I am actually trying not to count days since I talked to him- it just makes me feel like I am obsessing over it. I just want to forgive, heal, and forget!
Author AlisaMarie Posted October 29, 2011 Author Posted October 29, 2011 Yes totally true . From the dumpee POV I think at first its denial . You know , he/she will call blah blah blah ... the more NC then it starts sinking in and hurting more . You get sad , angry , create situations in your head and think your crazy . Once acceptance is achieved ( I think its diff for everyone , but NC is crucial ) I think then thats when the real healing begins . Right now its just hurt and more hurt . It's just been so hard for me, we broke up 6 times in 2 years... but he breaks in a couple weeks and wants me back. I take him because it doesn't give me enough time to get over it and reflect. He comes at me with promises and changes then stabs me in the back months down the road. I actually do expect to hear from him sooner than later. I just need help staying away.
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