D87 Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Need some urgent advice guys. Me and my now ex gf planned a trip to go to Halloween horror nights at universal. It is already paid for and is non-refundable. About a week ago she said she wasn't sure if she's still in love with me and moved out to take some time apart and "find herself". She mentioned to me over the phone that she thinks we should still go on the trip to see if maybe it will rekindle things and also because we already paid for it ($500+ for both hotel and park entrance). I'm pretty hurt right now and not sure if this is a good idea. Suggestions?
Eliana Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 If I was in your situation I would go. There wasn't a big ugly fight between you to justify cancelling it, and it will be an extra opportunity for you two to talk about things.
Woggle Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Go and do your own thing without her. It will confuse her and show that you can be happy without her which will in turn create more attraction.
Symetrical-Siren Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 You're going to feel hurt regardless of whether you go or not. The economy's in shambles. Are you that rich, you can blow $500 plus ? Seriously. It's mind over matter babe. Meet. Be cordial. Once inside, do your own thing. She wants to find herself...then let her. You paid your share to go there and have fun, but that doesn't mean you're obligated to STAY with her the entire time. How do you tell someone, "I need to find myself", then turn around and say...."well this party could possibly change how I feel about us" ? FACT: Parties do NOT change feelings. Either she wants you, or she doesn't. That line sounds to me like perhaps someone from her past has crept back into her life, and she may be confused about her feelings. A lie is a lie. You two are adults - so she should be honest. People will get their feelings hurt regardless if there's bad news ahead about the relationship. Sugar coating stuff to be nice or trying to make it out to be something different, is cowardice. Plain and simple. I respect people more when they are up front and honest. Those that beat around the bush, and sugar coat $hit are not to be trusted. I don't take dishonesty "lightly". A lie is a lie. They don't come in colors. That "little WHITE lie", is all a load of bull****. White, black, red, green, purple. Do that math. Whatever colors the lies paint on the canvas, it all still adds up to the same equation lie = dishonest = that fool can't be trusted.........period. That being said....Just go to the party, and meet new people. Who knows, you may meet someone better. Doesn't have to be a rebound either. If you DO happen to meet someone, just let them know what's up. Some people are actually willing to allow you time to heal so that you can pursue something wonderful.
Casablanca Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 May as well, it is paid for...if you dont go, you'll be thinking of it anyway
MizHoney2U Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Go, do your best to enjoy, and do not bring up the break up at all. If it comes up, let her be the one to bring it up, and then let her know you are willing to give her the space and time she needs. take this time to observe her and decide if she is actually worth waiting for. But your goal is to get your money worth and have fun and take pictures... have her take most of you.
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