lalalandman Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 (edited) So I went to a Halloween Party last night. Granted this is SoCal, so there are plenty of places to go. Anyways, I went with a girl I've been seeing for a little under a month and her friends. So after an hour, we're at another part of the venue. Her and I are dancing, it's dark. I turn to look over my shoulder... And I see her. She's dancing with another guy. She's about 5 feet away from me. Then she looks over and stops dead in her tracks. Her jaw drops. And we just stare at each other for what feels like forever. I remember how everything peripheral just ceased to exist. Then she abruptly walks away, he follows, and I felt like everything around just turned back on. So I just sort of shake it off, and keep on dancing with my chic. Anyways, the ex rolls back in, and my date wants to head off the dance floor. So as we're leaving, I give the other guy a nudge that throws him off balance. Definitely unwarranted but hey, I have no shame. So the rest of the night we see each other sporadically, but no words. I think at one point 2 girls took me to the dance floor and she saw. Probably looked as though I was showing off but I honestly just wanted to have fun and enjoy myself. I actually took my date to the other part of the venue because I didn't want any confrontation. Well I take it back, because I did give that guy one more nudge on the way back in. I'm terrible. But screw it. It probably seemed more like an accident to him, like an annoyance of people bumping into you. I wanted it to seem like that. So the night ends, the lights are on, and I see her from an angle sort of looking around. She sees me, and we just kind of look at each other with a tinge on sadness. I think her and her new group of friends ended up booking rooms at the venue, which had an upstairs hotel. We left. Just weird. You know, I ran into her dad once. 3 weeks ago, I ran into her best friend. And then last night that happens. I haven't spoken with her in 2 months. We dated 5 years. She broke it off with me in May. I know not to think too much of it but it does make you wonder a little sometimes. Just thought I'd share this story. Edited October 29, 2011 by lalalandman
january2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Yup, happened to me once. It's a shock to the system because at some point you probably accepted that you'd never see that person again. But you just have to shake it off, as ThatLuckyGirl wrote.
Author lalalandman Posted October 29, 2011 Author Posted October 29, 2011 You know, I feel sort of bad for brushing the dude she was with, but oh well. When she walked off so abruptly after seeing me, I was not surprised. The thing is, when we caught eyes, I was actually slightly grinning at her. I thought about talking to her, but I didn't want to ruin things with my date. I just went on having a good time. The girl I've been seeing is very beautiful and she's a really sweet girl. My ex passed by us dancing a bunch. I think the ex got upset when she saw my date wearing my jacket as I was escorting her from outside to the bathroom. She made the decision to leave me. I've finally moved on, like she asked for me to do. I thought about whether I still hold resentment, but today, I'm not really feeling anything. I thought I may have woken up and thought about calling her today, but this morning, it hadn't crossed my mind.
Author lalalandman Posted October 29, 2011 Author Posted October 29, 2011 Ya, encountering exes can be a tough situation. It's good you can just shake it off though. Good luck with the new girl you're seeing! thank you very much
Ajax Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 Interesting post, lala... I was in a similar situation about three weeks ago when I attended a wedding that my ex was at as well. I hadn't seen her in over a year, when she broke up with me. She was there with a new boyfriend and I also had a date. She wouldn't even look at me the entire time. And any time I went up on the dance floor she would leave. It's sad that relationships can come to this. But at least I knew she was going to be there. I wasn't blindsided by her. I think you handled the situation very well.
MIK1000 Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 Interesting post, lala... I was in a similar situation about three weeks ago when I attended a wedding that my ex was at as well. I hadn't seen her in over a year, when she broke up with me. She was there with a new boyfriend and I also had a date. She wouldn't even look at me the entire time. And any time I went up on the dance floor she would leave. It's sad that relationships can come to this. But at least I knew she was going to be there. I wasn't blindsided by her. I think you handled the situation very well. I wouldn't feel too bad about nudging this guy, you could have done a lot worse and I'm sure he wouldn't take it personally. I'm kind of dreading/excited about this happening because my friends go to the same night club as her and her friends and I will inevitably be there the same night at some point in the next few months. I don't know how I will deal with it because i haven't seen her at all. Really hope she isn't with her new guy though but if she is I'll try and act in the same respectable way you did.
Author lalalandman Posted November 1, 2011 Author Posted November 1, 2011 Many people were surprised that I intentionally brushed the other dude. It came off as aggressive. I'm somewhat disappointed, as it's not my most honorable of moments. I suppose it's just a learning experience and I probably still hold resentment if I'm willing to brush someone who I don't even know, granted I have no idea what their relationship with each other is.
Sugarkane Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I really envy you lala. After the immature and callous way I was dumped, I would absolutely love for my ex to see me with someone else.
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