flirtatwork Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Hi, I have been "seeing" this girl for almost a year now and I think she is quite interested, and I am really interested, unless she wouldnt be hanging out with me. Im just gonna cut right to it. So the thing is I really wanted to have a nice time with her and make the first kiss with her (not first first... first with her) but Im pretty shy with her but not other people if you know what I mean. So she's working at a bar and tonight I got her to come to my place to chill after work. My parents are out of the town so I have the place all by myself. It was really late and all, like 6 in the morning. I just woke up for her. She came, We talked, and watched some tv shows and watched tv, listened to music, and we sat in a sofa next to each other and I just didnt know WHEN to try for the kiss. It was so stressful and I really just wanted to grab her and kiss her! You know... I have done this before with other girls (not many, and quite long time ago) I know how to do it... it's like I didnt find the courage and I feel so sick for not doing anything. So after 2 hours she got tired and wanted to go home to sleep and I just did know that she wanted a kiss(I just know) (i think lol) and NOW im so regretful.. just telling myself WHY DIDNT YOU DO IT, WHY DIDNT YOU SAY ANYTHING, WHY DIDNT YOU JUMP ON HER.. IT WAS SO GOOD OPPORTUNITY... So, It will be the exact same situation tomorrow.. Ill be home alone, she'll be working.. should I try it again.. what should I do? I really want her bad! I've been working so hard to keep this tension going, for so many months. I want to kiss her, maybe sleep with her if it will go that way and I think she wants to. It's like im always waiting for her to take the first step but I know I have to do it... damn LOL help me please what should I do now?
Fizzy1337 Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Do something about it buddy. Ur the man make the move. If u don't i'll steal her from u jk jk but ye man up and get it done
Author flirtatwork Posted October 29, 2011 Author Posted October 29, 2011 Do something about it buddy. Ur the man make the move. If u don't i'll steal her from u jk jk but ye man up and get it done I just so afraid of when the right moment is, like when there is a moment of silence.. then my mind goes like crazy "should I kiss her" "should I touch her legs and lean in" "is it the right moment??" then something else happens we start talking about something or I dont know. I really just wanted to kiss her right when I opened the door for her. And now all I think about is how to get her alone with me again in this perfect situation I had her in yesterday.
Fondue Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 When in doubt, look into her eyes and just ask "May I kiss you?" Or just say, "I would like to kiss you right now." Most women are gonna smile/blush and say "yes." That's how I do it sometimes. The girls say they find it "cute" when you ask them.
Cypress25 Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 When in doubt, look into her eyes and just ask "May I kiss you?" Or just say, "I would like to kiss you right now." Most women are gonna smile/blush and say "yes." That's how I do it sometimes. The girls say they find it "cute" when you ask them. I might have found that cute when I was 12. But most adult women expect an adult man to know how to read body language and non-verbal cues. If a 20-something guy had me on his couch late at night and asked if he could kiss me, I'd want to roll my eyes. That makes the whole situation awkward and uncomfortable, because the guy is basically saying "I'm painfully shy and I don't know how to read women, so I'm going to ask for permission and ruin the moment." Good times for all.
monkey00 Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 I might have found that cute when I was 12. But most adult women expect an adult man to know how to read body language and non-verbal cues. If a 20-something guy had me on his couch late at night and asked if he could kiss me, I'd want to roll my eyes. That makes the whole situation awkward and uncomfortable, because the guy is basically saying "I'm painfully shy and I don't know how to read women, so I'm going to ask for permission and ruin the moment." Good times for all. I agree women do not like to be asked. If a girl is sitting very close to you on a couch or she's touching you physically then it's an obvious sign. Or if you're too nervous to just go for the kill, you could just say "give me a kiss."..then go for it.
Author flirtatwork Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 (edited) I might have found that cute when I was 12. But most adult women expect an adult man to know how to read body language and non-verbal cues. If a 20-something guy had me on his couch late at night and asked if he could kiss me, I'd want to roll my eyes. That makes the whole situation awkward and uncomfortable, because the guy is basically saying "I'm painfully shy and I don't know how to read women, so I'm going to ask for permission and ruin the moment." Good times for all. I have heard girls opinions about asking for permission to kiss and I know it is a no go, so that would not happen haha. I Know that I need to go for the kill, but it is like Im waiting for the "perfect" moment, when she looks at me and I look at her blah. I felt there was a bit awkward moments when I should have probably kissed her that night, example we were checking something out in her laptop and she stopped what she was doing and started watching the TV facing in my direction and we started mocking the bitches and hookers cash cars etc videos lol. But Im just gonna forget that night, and think about whats ahead, (Though after all these were fun 2 hours) and then there is another problem. The thing is now Im thinking so much about what she thinks of why I haven't done anything(Dont even know if shes thinking that), I've been contacting her for a long time and always keeping so much tension going on but haven't gone for the kill. And I am often stressful of like calling her or sending a text thinking "she's probably busy" "doesn't want to talk to me right now" "Ill just ignore her for 2 days then send a text" "maybe Im calling and texting to much" I relly want to call her now and see if she's free to come over and watch a movie and chill or if I can go to her place. Maybe Im afraid of rejection? Maybe I just want more interest from her? I dont know, I just think about her a lot, it's something about her. Any more good advices besides asking her for a kiss?? lol Edited October 31, 2011 by flirtatwork
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