SilverLining328 Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 I am finally seeking advice after trying to date someone for the past few months. I recently broke up with my boyfriend again. It is not something that I enjoy doing and do not get a thrill from it and I do not ever use him or just string him along. I have spent almost four years as a single chic and loved it when it came to always having my own space, doing whatever I want, etc. I have never been the girl to be scared to be alone and always thought that I would rather be alone that be with the wrong person. I am comfortable on my own. Maybe a little too comfortable. During the summer I decided to start dating a guy whom I've known for about two years. He is a great person. Any woman would like dating him because he knows how to treat a girl right. I think anyone reading this would think. There is a cycle that goes on...everything is good for two weeks and then I break up with him for different reasons each time and I am very surprised he has stayed around. At first it was because I was having a hard time with trust because of a previous boyfriend and I learned to get through it since not everyone is the same. Lately its because I've felt smothered because we spend so much time together and I have told him many times I like my space and need to have alone time and he says he understands, but still we spend every day/night together. When I wasn't around all the time he would do his own thing, but when he is with me he does everything I want to do. It gets on my nerve but I try to not let it because any girl would appreciate a guy who spends quality time on her. I do adore him...most of the times, but lately I have been tired of it. I don't want to spend time with him and if I see him I just want to walk the other way. When he txtx me I ignore them. Every time we have broken up I tell him the truth and he says ok and that he understands, but we fall back into the same habit. I don't know what to do. Should I just not date him again in the future? It really upsets me to play with his emotions like this telling him I love him but not want to be with him.
Rarinbug Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 I think you should just be straight with him, I appreciate you have been during the break ups but it's clearly not going anywhere from your perspective. Let him know that he's a great guy but not right for you, he sounds like an understanding guy. My ex sounds very much like you and he sounds very much like me, after many break ups the final ending was not a happy one. Obviously it won't be the same in every situation but you should let him go for good.
Author SilverLining328 Posted October 30, 2011 Author Posted October 30, 2011 Thank you very much. I will take your advice.
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