person123 Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 I guess this topic basically gives away my intentions but here goes : If there is a girl I don't know (but I see her around and have some mutual friends) and I'm interested in asking her out, do I have to get to know her well before I ask her or can we just talk for maybe 5-10 minutes and then I ask her out? Also, what counts as a date? As long as I pay for the girl does that mean it's a date? What if it's at a local cafe/restaurant near our university that you might frequent just for lunch? Also do you have to kiss on a first date?
oaks Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 I guess this topic basically gives away my intentions but here goes : If there is a girl I don't know (but I see her around and have some mutual friends) and I'm interested in asking her out, do I have to get to know her well before I ask her or can we just talk for maybe 5-10 minutes and then I ask her out? Does she know who you are? If she doesn't then a short chat can't hurt your chances. You don't have to get to know her well before asking her out - the dating part can be where you get to know someone. Also, what counts as a date? As long as I pay for the girl does that mean it's a date? What if it's at a local cafe/restaurant near our university that you might frequent just for lunch? Also do you have to kiss on a first date? If you ask her out for a drink or a meal or a walk or whatever where it's just the two of you she'll probably assume it's a date. Paying doesn't have to be the defining factor. Location shouldn't matter. You don't have to kiss... and of course some people will 'expect' that you will try to if you're interested whereas some people would never kiss or allow themselves to be kissed on a first date. Anyway, this completely useless advice really boils down to this: there are no rules. It's chaos out there. Good luck.
Author person123 Posted October 30, 2011 Author Posted October 30, 2011 thanks but I get the feeling that most girls will not agree to go on dates if you just talk to them for like 5 minutes unless you're maybe in a bar or in random places like grocery shopping. Why would they just agree to go out with you after having only talked for a few minutes? Isn't that coming off as a bit too aggressive/strong?
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