perfectlyflawed459 Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 (edited) I went to the high school football game tonight with my sibling because they wanted to go and my parents wanted to enjoy a concert, and I saw him for the first time in a month while he was playing with the drumline. I could not help but smile. He looked so handsome and I wish I could just hug him. I am happy for him that he is enjoying drumline, because I know he has wanted that for the longest time and he worked so hard to get it. I am so proud of him, I truly am, regardless of our downfalls in the past. I will always be cheering him on. I am not sad or anything after seeing him, I just really miss him, but I am still feeling pretty good about everything Sorry for the pointless rambling, but I just kind of wanted to let that out somewhere. Edited October 29, 2011 by perfectlyflawed459
Rarinbug Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 I think it's really nice that you feel that way, there's a lot of bitter people (most of the time rightly so) and I am like you. If I saw my ex happy doing something she loves I would be so pleased for her. I'd also find it hard not to run over and give her a big hug!
Author perfectlyflawed459 Posted October 29, 2011 Author Posted October 29, 2011 I am glad I am not the only one who feels like this! I am sure some people would think I am crazy haha. I just don't think it is right to hold on to the past because those grudges are such an ugly thing that just eat at you everyday. I think for things to truly get better in both your life and in your relationship with an ex, you have to let go of all the anger. I know that is easier said than done, but it really does have a liberating feeling. I do look forward to the day when I can go and hug him again, laugh with him, and be happy with him. However right now I know in my heart that separation is the best for both of us. Idk if that day will ever come, or if we will ever be together again because I know nothing is guarenteed. I am not keeping my hopes up, but it doesn't hurt to keep an open mind and remain optimistic
Rarinbug Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Nah you aren't crazy, you're a lovely person! I completely agree about letting the anger go, it's a much better feeling. I could be bitter and twisted about how things have turned out as it's now too late but she is v happy and that's all she wants from life. Why should I begrudge her that, my happiness will come and so will yours.
Bobby289 Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 I am glad I am not the only one who feels like this! I am sure some people would think I am crazy haha. I just don't think it is right to hold on to the past because those grudges are such an ugly thing that just eat at you everyday. I think for things to truly get better in both your life and in your relationship with an ex, you have to let go of all the anger. I know that is easier said than done, but it really does have a liberating feeling. I do look forward to the day when I can go and hug him again, laugh with him, and be happy with him. However right now I know in my heart that separation is the best for both of us. Idk if that day will ever come, or if we will ever be together again because I know nothing is guarenteed. I am not keeping my hopes up, but it doesn't hurt to keep an open mind and remain optimistic Well said, not crazy at all. I have to move on for myself but in the back of my mind I do hope that she will let go of the resentment she has right now and not be afraid to let me back in. Optimism is a double edged sword though because it shows you still have hope. Nothing wrong with that some people say the only way to move on is to forget about them completely but I think it is possible to move on and leave a spot open for them when they are ready (in some cases). Separation will make him think about you because you are not the one always making initiative, How long we "wait" is another question...
Author perfectlyflawed459 Posted October 30, 2011 Author Posted October 30, 2011 Well said, not crazy at all. I have to move on for myself but in the back of my mind I do hope that she will let go of the resentment she has right now and not be afraid to let me back in. Optimism is a double edged sword though because it shows you still have hope. Nothing wrong with that some people say the only way to move on is to forget about them completely but I think it is possible to move on and leave a spot open for them when they are ready (in some cases). Separation will make him think about you because you are not the one always making initiative, How long we "wait" is another question... I don't mean to sound pathetic, but being optimistic about us being together again is kind of what keeps me going sometimes. I have a very very strong feeling I will cross paths again with him, I am actually almost certain, and looking forward to that has helped me heal a lot. The fact that this time apart can really improve things between him and I in the long run really keeps me going with the NC, despite how much I miss him. Plus it really allows me to truly make myself happy and make something of my life on my own. I will be honest, I am leaving a spot open for him, but i can't guarentee it will be open forever. If he comes around too late, then that is that...So I dunno if I would consider myself "waiting" for him, because I am definitely not looking for someone else for a very long time and I am content with that. For right now, being positive is really helping me move forward and forget the tension between us. Time really does heal all wounds, and I bet your ex will slowly forget the bad just as I am and such. But honestly, is hope really such a bad thing?
Author perfectlyflawed459 Posted October 30, 2011 Author Posted October 30, 2011 That's great that you feel this way! Any guy would love a girl like you! You seem really nice and you will meet someone new before you know it. Thank you so much It took quite a bit of growing up on my part to adopt this way of thinking, but I am quite happy with the progress I am making.
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