lillypolo Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Just wondering if this has happened to anyone else/ anyone else seen this? My ex broke up with me a year and a half ago, since then he has been very cold towards me(though I didnt do anything seriously wrong to cause him to break up with me- the full reasons are still unclear to me) But since then he has become obsessed with his one main sport - he doesnt talk to anyone about anything personal just his sport, it's basically all he does... and talks about... plans for ...buys stuff for etc - and it's all become very prominent since he broke up with me. Maybe hes just really really into this sport, but do you think he could be throwing himself into it to avoid dwelling on things? We have to see one another every single day and will be doing for years to come (same university course) It just seems so... Obsessive...
january2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 People do all kinds of things after a breakup. In my experience, yes, it's usually a coping mechanism. But if that's his life right now, so be it. He's grown, right? He can make his own life choices. On the surface, being obsessed with a sporting activity seems to be one of the least unhealthy choices one can make after a breakup. While you still have to see each other until your course ends, I don't think this concerns you. Perhaps you still care for him. However, his life choices are his life choices. Speculation and dissection of them because you're his ex a year and a half after a break up sounds like an unhealthy choice for you, in my opinion. Harsh though it sounds, I suggest that you move on and focus on your own life. And leave him be to his. He's made his choices and unfortunately, none of those appear to include you.
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