immitable Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 It may sound ridiculous, but I decided to finaly stop this vicious circle and kill all the hope I was harbouring. 5 months NC, no contact from each side, she broke up with me, no apparent reason. I tried to reason this whole time, not knowing if she is going to get back or anything like that, or if it is worth it at all. Many things have been left unsaid. Got tired of what ifs. So, I send her hi how are you, and got i am fine how are you and that I could pick up my stuff which I requested per e-mail about a month ago. I went on to text if she would like to talk to me and got no reply, just that sunday is ok to pick up my stuff (she is not going to be at the apartment)and that she hopes all is well. I acted like a doormat I know, but believe it or not it helps me get final closure and not want to contact her ever again, I feel somehow liberated. My sister got pissed whan I told her that I texted my ex, but it was stzronger than me. Now I know at least what a cold hearted b***h my ex really is. opinions?
january2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Closure's good. Now get on with your life. Good luck!
ken_25 Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 I just hope the feeling isn't temporary and you will significantly progress from this, and if so, then i'm happy for you man. Back to NC.
norajane Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Hmm, 5 months of NC should have given you a clear picture that she wasn't coming back. However, you needed more closure and now you have it, so enjoy the rest of your life! Put her behind you, do not look backward, do not dwell on the past. There is better to come for you!
Author immitable Posted October 28, 2011 Author Posted October 28, 2011 thank you guys for your opinions, I really appreciate your views. Thanks Jan @ ken_25, I am usually strong willed and this was first for me to act this way (first hartbreak you know), maybe defeat or rejection or the unfair ending, but I definitely believe and also want to believe that this is finally a clear cut for me as well. @norajane, yeah I know but was confused because I felt I didn't deserve to be treated like that, especially after 5 years, now I definitely know that she doesn't deserve me in any form.
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