snug.bunny Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 (edited) I find it odd for someone to track a complete stranger's internet whereabouts and then worry about what said stranger's work/friends/family would think if they saw it. If he's single, he can do whatever he wants online. Now, if you were in a relationship with each other, and he continued to routinely corresponded with porn stars, that's different. I realize you are dating online, and want to be cautious, but if you dislike what you found then perhaps it's best you didn't go on the date. Why continue to worry yourself with what he does online or what other people think of his online activities if they saw it, when you haven't even met him yet? Edited October 29, 2011 by snug.bunny
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 Hello everybody. No friends around to ask today so wanted a response to this.... I met a guy online, been texting, speaking on the phone for two weeks, so far, so good. We have arranged to meet for coffee next tomorrow night. I googled him just now and found some messages he has posted on a blog and on twitter. He appears to be in contact with porn stars and the such like and messages them quite suggestive comments, as recently as two days ago! There are about ten or so different women who he regularly messages and they reply. They are not just female friends as I've looked them up too and they are online porn stars so he wouldn't have ever actually met any of them. Is this common with men? Is is acceptable? Should I be worried or put off? My ex used to look at porn sites, I'm open-minded and it didn't bother me. This however is different the whole world can read the stuff he's written. Also is some of his other comments he has sworn terribly, quite offensive. He has never had such a 'potty mouth' (!) on the phone...is this normal? Are people different online or are their comments a true reflection of what they are really like in the flesh/when you get to know them? Otherwise I really like him...need help to ascertain if I am over reacting or not. Please help! You've misplaced a key element here. The major factor is not that they, or anybody else, are online porn stars. In this case the major factor is your knowing about it. There are now scores and scores of people all over society who are "online porn stars", and who still go through the grocery checkout, who still go to Starbucks, and who still wait for the subway. If at some point you decide to date him seriously, insist that he mask his identity (and yours) in every way during his online dealings. If he was a single guy, he was surely allowed to be in contact with what amounts to other people, via the internet. If by chance two of them had been twin sisters, each a porn star, but you only knew of one of them being a porn star, whyyyyyyyyyy would the twins be seen as being significantly different from one another?
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