FinOuch Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 So my good friend and I have an ongoing debate regarding whether I'm "dating" a guy or not. I've actually known this guy through mutual friends for a number of years, but we have never been more than acquaintances. Over the summer we were hanging out through these mutual friends and got talking, found out we go to the same campus, and exchanged numbers. Shortly after the semester started we got in contact, and have been hanging out for a couple of months now. A majority of the times I invite him along to things I'm doing (generally plans already made with other friends such as dancing or concerts), but there have also been a few times where he and I have gone out to do something one-on-one. We do something probably on average two out of every three weekends – sometimes even doing things two days in a row over the same weekend. She believes this would classify as dating. I, however, am not comfortably calling it dating – the reason being that there haven't been any displays beyond friendship over this two month period. In other words, he hasn't made a move. There's not been any hand holding, any hanging out in a more intimate way (like watching a movie or something similarly cuddly), or an attempt at a kiss. Nothing. So I've sort of taking a stance that we're just hanging out as friends right now. Not dating. I've accepted that he could simply not be interested, or that he could be interested but is being cautious and taking his time figuring it out. Either way...we're not to the level of dating right at this moment since there have not been any real displays beyond friendship. So now, LS'ers...I turn to you for your opinions. Do you think this is dating or not? How would you define dating versus just hanging out with someone?
Dorie Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 This is not dating. This is friendship/companionship. Without the romantic/physical element or intent, how could it possibly be dating?
Author FinOuch Posted October 28, 2011 Author Posted October 28, 2011 Zero affection? Friends. Well, zero affection beyond what I would expect at a friendship level. Hugs are about it. This is not dating. This is friendship/companionship. Without the romantic/physical element or intent, how could it possibly be dating? That's exactly my take on it. But all three of my best friends seem to want to think there's something more going on. This particular friend just happens to be the most adamant about referring to it as dating.
Imageiko Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 So I've sort of taking a stance that we're just hanging out as friends right now. Not dating. I agree with you.
azsinglegal Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Well, zero affection beyond what I would expect at a friendship level. Hugs are about it. That's exactly my take on it. But all three of my best friends seem to want to think there's something more going on. This particular friend just happens to be the most adamant about referring to it as dating. Hugs don't count. I hug all my friends. I hug my co-workers when I see them outside of work. I hug new boyfriends/girlfriends my friends bring around to make them feel welcome.
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