NewSmyrnaBeach Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 (edited) I'm 33 years old and always thought that the older you got, the easier relationships with friends, family, and significant others would be and I am finding things to be so opposite. I am feeling like I just don't want to be around anyone anymore because the older I get, the ****tier I realize people are. Even the ones you like are scumbags. My brother married a bitch and that has affected his relationship with the entire family. One of my best friends also married a horrible girl and as a result, I don't really want to be around them. My other best friend is married to an amazing girl and has a baby on the way but he informed me recently that he got drunk and slept with another one of our friend's wives. My ex-wife cheated on me after 7+ years and we got divorced as a result when I was 27. While I was getting divorced and getting over that, pretty much all of my friends were getting married. Now they are having kids and I just feel like I am in such a different place than they are. I am a pretty social guy and have an amazing girlfriend going on 2 years but I still feel pretty alone a lot of the time and often find myself really missing spending time with my friends and family and being frustrated with how complicated things get. I work all the time and pretty much all of my activities I like to do in my spare time are solitary (running, surfing, fishing off the beach), so I'm not going to make new friends like the lifelong friends I had and I'm not interested in hanging out with people wanting to run the bars every weekend, so I'm just kind of stuck. I never in a million years ever saw myself being at this place, at my age. I guess I have felt like this for a while but I always had my best friend. This week, when he told me about having sex with one of our other friend's wives I wished he wouldn't have told me. I would never ruin his life by saying anything to his wife or our other friend about that but now I don't even really feel like being around him. Don't get me wrong, I still know that I have some amazing friends and family, things have just changed so much. I never get to spend any time with any of them like we use to and I wasn't ready for that. Adulthood snuck up on me when I was in a weakened state and I wasn't prepared for that either. I can't say anything to anyone about my best friend. I won't even mention it to my girlfriend because I wouldn't want her to think he is a scumbag or that I must be similar because we have been best friends since we were 10 years old. I guess that's why I am writing here. Has anyone else ever felt extremely disappointed with how the relationships in your lives have evolved and felt like you just want to be left alone as a result? I don't have a baby to talk about with my responsible friends and I'm not enough of a scumbag to want to hang out with the others.... Edited October 28, 2011 by NewSmyrnaBeach
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