angel16 Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 I lied to my husband about my career. I told him i was a nurse before we got married. I lied to him where i worked. We didnt use to live together it was long distance realationship but now we live togehter sine we got married. I keep telling him that i have applied for my board exam for nursing but i havent. But he will know the truth soon beacuse i cant hide it anymore. It is killing me now. I was to tell him everything and start my realationship freash. I know i messdep. I dont know how to tell him and how is he gonna take it. Please help!
joseph17 Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 This is a weird predicament you got yourself into. I don't know how I would take this. how did you keep this a secret for so long? What career do you really have that you don't want to admit it to your husband?
Author angel16 Posted October 28, 2011 Author Posted October 28, 2011 I was just working at the clothing store. I guess i was just shame to say that i dont have my career set. I know i made a huge mistake but now i want to tell him the truth and i am scare. what if i lose him?
joseph17 Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 I don't think you will lose him over this. You have to come clean though and not let this prolong any longer. You might lose is trust but at least it isn't something major like you cheated. You may want to start thinking of why you lied to him for so long because that will be a question and what you are really going to do as a career. Do you really want to be a nurse or was that just a cover up?
Author angel16 Posted October 28, 2011 Author Posted October 28, 2011 Yes, I really want to be a nurse. Also, he caught me before but i saved myself with another lie. and he trusted me without questioning more. so now i have one more truth to tell him and i am scare. because he trusted me the frist time and believed me everything that came out from my mouth. and before i made fake paper to show him that i did nursing and he believed me. So, i am gonna have to explain that too him also. I just dont know how to start all this and tell him the truth.
joseph17 Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 You actually went as far as printing up fake pay stubs? Why not just lie since you are already and say you got fired. Then act like you are gonna go look for a job and act like you found one doing what you are doing now. This is a prime example of once you start a lie it takes another lie to cover it up. You are just gonna have to come clean before he finds out or try and do whatI suggested above. I personally would be honest and quit the lies and know that it is going to take some work to fix this
ChelseaLS Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 WOW, I'd probably let him know now... however before would have been best... especially before marriage. If I were him, I would be wondering how I could trust you considering all of this. After all isn't marriage supposed to be built on trust? (call me old school). Don't be too surprised at his response... it's pretty disrespectful to lie to the one you love. I do wish you the best though. Good luck, but don't hold off any longer.
ChelseaLS Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 WOW, I'd probably let him know now... however before would have been best... especially before marriage. If I were him, I would be wondering how I could trust you considering all of this. After all isn't marriage supposed to be built on trust? (call me old school). Don't be too surprised at his response... it's pretty disrespectful to lie to the one you love. I do wish you the best though. Good luck, but don't hold off any longer.
Author angel16 Posted November 7, 2011 Author Posted November 7, 2011 Thank you guys for your support and advise. I told him last night and he got upset but he said he wont leave me for that. I feel so much better telling him all my lies. Now we can start everything fresh and new. But now the problem is that i was telling him to move out from his parents place. Right now e live with his parents and trying to save up for the house and we can afford a house right now. I dont get along with his mom and i want to move out before i my relationship gets worse with his mom. Now he told me that i cant tell him to move out. so, i guess thats my punishment? I dont know what to do now cuz i hate staying with his parents. I am not happy at all staying there. his mom makes me cry and saying anything to me. Now i am stuck with whatever he says now? Thanks again guys.
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