filmbuffy Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 My girlfriend suddenly broke up with me a little over 3 months ago, she told me she did not love me anymore, did not feel a spark or that there was any chemistry left..... but what she really meant to say is that there was someone else!! Two weeks after splitting with me she was living with this new person. At first we tried to remain friendly but she ran hot and cold on me and eventually I tired of it and went no contact. The no contact really seemed to bother my ex and just this week she contacted me and asked that we meet to talk..... part of me wants to go to hear what she has to say but another part of me, feels she wants/needs something..... Should I meet her and hear her out or continue with the NC?
crackster Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 My girlfriend suddenly broke up with me a little over 3 months ago, she told me she did not love me anymore, did not feel a spark or that there was any chemistry left..... but what she really meant to say is that there was someone else!! Two weeks after splitting with me she was living with this new person. At first we tried to remain friendly but she ran hot and cold on me and eventually I tired of it and went no contact. The no contact really seemed to bother my ex and just this week she contacted me and asked that we meet to talk..... part of me wants to go to hear what she has to say but another part of me, feels she wants/needs something..... Should I meet her and hear her out or continue with the NC? Hmmm.. tricky. How long were you together and how long NC have you been? If you have been doing good NC and moving on and then you meet and its not what you want to hear.. or any thing its gonna set you back to day one. but then again i would want to no what she has to say.. But do you really want to meet up with her.. after she left you for some one. and now that might have went wrong and she wants you back! but why should you take her back. but like u said you dunno what she wants to talk about so am not sure.. am sure some 1 here will help out a bit more.
headsashed Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 It depends on what you want really, If you want to know what she has to say then id txt her back asking what she wants to talk about because if its something you dont want to hear then seeing her is going to make you feel worse than a simple txt. If you dont want her back at all and want to move on then just stick to NC. thats my opinion anyway.
PegNosePete Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Cancel. What on earth could she possibly have say? She treated you like a turd and now she wants to have a nice chat over coffee? Come on man stick up for yourself. Tell her to take a long walk off a short plank. What do you think she would be doing if you had done to her, what she did to you? Would she be meeting you to "chat"? No, she would be making voodoo dolls of you with her girlfriends, sticking printouts of your face to dart boards, and burning effigies of you in the street.
Chi townD Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Her actions spoke louder than any of her words. So, she wants to talk. Why? Just to reaffirm her own justifications in her mind that her breaking up with you for someone else was the right choice and that she hopes you understand? That she understands that you are angry but she really misses your friendship and she really hopes that you can still be friends? There ya go!! I just gave you the bulk of the "talk". Now, you don't need to go. You welcome!
fenderjames Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Hi Film , your call bro . Youre 3 months in - thats a hell of an accomplishment in my humble opinion . I think it depends on what you wish to get out of it . If you want her back , then yes go meet her . However if you have reached that elusive apex where you've turned a corner in your mind and want to simply continue to move on then don't do it . Its quite cut and dry I think , but everyones circumstances differ , so whichever route you choose I hope it pans out YOU'RE way - she left you , so please remember that she is quite capable of doing it again . Im speaking from experience here - take a deep breath and go your way my friend .
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