Eliana Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 So I moved out of my country to get some work experience and improve my CV. I moved out alone so this will be my first Christmas on my own. Something that's really getting on my nerves is how everyone keeps asking me where will I spend Christmas. I mean, EVERYONE. I told the true, will probably spend it alone, and most reactions are of pity or surprise, and I absolutely hate this. I'm catholic, it's a religious holiday, and although family does reunite for a meal, it should be more about going to church, which I'm planning to do anyway. Instead, people around me worry about cooking for 40 people and buying presents noone needs and pity me because I'm not going to be included on a consumist foodie festival! I found myself lying recently about it, and saying I have some friends in the capital and will probably spend it with them just to avoid the feeling that people think I don't have friends or I'm not wanted anywhere, which is not true. It still makes me feel that I'm not living up to people's expectations, or that people are thinking less of me, or they think I'm just sad and I must be miserable on my own pityful lonely life, that I will propably drink myself uncounscious on the 25th or something... It's just horrible. Even the sudden interest of people of where I'll spend Christmas feels insultuous to me now. Am I going overboard on this? Why is it so weird to spend Christmas alone? I'm sure there are people like me, that won't call this insanity or failure.
january2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 You're grown. Do what you want to do. It sounds like the people around you are projecting their own fears of being alone. These were manifested in their replies. In my experience, other than very close friends and family (and the odd good samaritan), I don't think anyone really cares how anyone else spends their Christmas. It's just a question/conversation starter. You can take the passive-aggressive route and make something up to deflect or the proactive route and plan something really cool for yourself so that they'll be wishing that they were spending their Christmas with you.
norajane Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Tell them you are spending it in church. That will typically shut people up.
insertnamehere Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Because it means you're a loser. So ends another edition of Easy Answers to Easy Questions. Tune in next week when we tackle, "Should I eat a whole bone-in holiday ham in a single sitting?"
Symetrical-Siren Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 (edited) Sounds like you're being judged by needy people that have no concept of thinking OUTSIDE of the box. Seriously, these days people are LEMMINGS. No one has any identity. They are all "followers" and clones of the Jone's. Trying to keep up with whatever the Jones are doing. If you're doing something different, then you're poor or underprivileged. The "Christian" thing to do is pity you. Seriously, don't get mad. Laugh at them. They're the one's that should be pitied. The mind set of those people is absolutely pathetic and pretty scary. Those are the same people that cut you off in traffic in order to make the sale at Sears and Wal-Mart on the newest X-box. People like that trampled a Wal-Mart employee to death rushing into the store to go shopping for their loved ones. Their holiday shopping was worth the life of a person, who's family had to celebrate the holidays without him. I'm sure Jesus was loving that. Tell you're friends, you're going to be giving "Jesus" some quality time at the Church, while they are worshiping some unholy material thing most likely made in CHINA that'll either be damaged or in the attic within the next 5 to 10 yrs. Better yet, bring up that scripture to them where Jesus cleanses the temple of all the Merchants in Jerusalem. Ask them how they think Jesus would feel about them holiday shopping for each other in HIS name. Christmas - CHRISTmass has absolutely nothing to do with commercial junk that Jesus would most likely frown on anyhow.....per the scriptures. Edited October 29, 2011 by Symetrical-Siren duplicated word
denise_xo Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Am I going overboard on this? Why is it so weird to spend Christmas alone? I'm sure there are people like me, that won't call this insanity or failure. I hear you. I have no interest in Christmas whatsoever and would rather just spend it as a normal day on my own, but when I express that loud people go all weird about it. It's annoying.
Author Eliana Posted October 29, 2011 Author Posted October 29, 2011 Because it means you're a loser. I love you too:p Thanks for all the replies, made me feel more rational and calm about the situation. This subject isn't used as a conversation starter, or if it is it soon becomes something else, because I have to endure opinionated people sugesting that I should spend it with family X, or friend Y, or why am I such a greedy *itch that I won't even buy a plane ticket to go visit my parents as any good decent daughter should do? But cheer up, only 2 months to go... E-Sky: I'm spending Halloween partying with my house mates; I wonder if we have enough toilet paper:cool:
Leegh Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 I know exactly how you feel. I, at times, have traveled alone and co-workers or family members have acted surprised and have said: "Oh, you're traveling alone" or something like "Is there someone you could go with". I don't mention to them that I am offended, I just say "Oh, it's just a quick trip" or something like that. The truth is sometimes I like traveling alone, and it can be embarrassing when people make unnecessary comments. But, nowadays with the cell phone anyone can be anywhere, and nobody has to know!
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