Mark1 Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 There was a girl in my class last semester. Very pretty. We didn't talk much because we sat on other sides of the room. She was also quiet in the class setting, but when she spoke she seemed nice. I hadn't seen her since December, until a Friday night in early May at the bar. I don't drink and she knows that, even so, when she saw me she came running over, "Maaaarkk!!" I got a kiss (cheek), and we held each others hands while talking. She wasn't very drunk, and her friend was totally fine. Before she leaves she gives me her number and tells me to call her Saturday night to go out to another bar together. Just to make sure, I say, "You're gonna remember giving me your number, right?" And she looks me straight in the eye and says, "Yes. i'm not like that, I'll remember." Even so, I'm like, "okay whatever, she's drunk, she probably doesn't really mean it." But I text her Saturday anyways to see if she wants to go. She replies, "Hey I have plans tonight, but what are you doing for dinner?" So from there we've been texting. She's went back home for the summer, but we kept in touch. Well, this semester rolls around, and we still talk and keep in touch. Problem is, when I ask her about dinner, she replies with: "Like as friends?" or "Who else is going?" I assumed this to mean she didn't want it to be a date, but whenever I see her on campus, she gives me a hug and talks to me a lot, so I'm getting mixed signals. She also told me which bar she will be at for Halloween on Saturday, and I figured if she didnt want to see me she didn't have to tell me that. Maybe she just wants to be w me when there is alcohol involved? My plan is to go on Sat and flirt with her and see what happens. Then, next week, just ask her straight up, "would you like to go on a date with me" Thoughts?
TOLGA Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Well it seems that you fancy her, and from what I read there is definately a connection there. This is the same advice i was given and i believe in it whole heartidly- Just ask her out. Make your intentions clear. For all you know it could be the start of a beautiful relationship. She has given you her number, asked you to dinner. What else can she do? its time for you to take some initiative. The last thing you want to wonder is what if....
Survivor12 Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 "Well, this semester rolls around, and we still talk and keep in touch. Problem is, when I ask her about dinner, she replies with: "Like as friends?" or "Who else is going?" So, how have you responded?
Author Mark1 Posted October 28, 2011 Author Posted October 28, 2011 "Well, this semester rolls around, and we still talk and keep in touch. Problem is, when I ask her about dinner, she replies with: "Like as friends?" or "Who else is going?" So, how have you responded? Good question. I didn't respond, because I thought it meant she just wanted to be friends. The only reason I'm questioning it now is because when she sees me in person, she's all talkative and gives me hugs etc.
Survivor12 Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Your mistake (which is an all-too common one) is assuming. She isn't giving you any mixed signals. She has shown you that she is interested in you. YOU are the one who chose to think that she only wants to be friends. There's no need for you to flirt with her to let her know that you are interested...just ASK HER ON A DATE!
InJest Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 You had your opening. When she asked, "As friends?", you should've said, "No, not as just friends." Then if she had given you some nonsense about not being ready to date, you should've said, okay, cool and ignore all contact from then. In any event, next time you see her, ask her out, and make your intentions clear. If you're very direct, she can't give you a bs answer and leave you confused.
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