leftintx Posted May 19, 2004 Posted May 19, 2004 Help... I met him in California where I'm from, we dated and got engaged, then he lost his job, and after a year a half, we moved to texas. I left my job, house, friends and family all in california. Now I'm here, and he gets mad at me, and goes out till 5:30 in the morning and claims he was just at a friends house. He also ignores any uncomfortable feelings I have about his friends comming over to stay the night. He told me, that since we now live in his grandmothers house, that he has the final say in what happens. He has hid stuff in the past from me (smoking), and promised me then that there would never be any communication issues again. I cancled the wedding, and listed all the stuff for sale on ebay. But what do I do? we are good friends, but I don't feel that we have what it takes to make it long term. Plus I'm lonely, and depressed here in Texas. How do you know when to give up and break up?
bluechocolate Posted May 19, 2004 Posted May 19, 2004 How do you know when to give up and break up? I think you now that already. If you don't just think about what he told you. that since we now live in his grandmothers house, that he has the final say in what happens Do you want to spend the rest of your life with a man who would say something like that?
Author leftintx Posted May 19, 2004 Author Posted May 19, 2004 Your right, I probley do know that it's time. But it's so hard to walk away, and pack my car, and drive for three days back to california, to try and find a job again, and living alone. I would hate to give up ... and drive back to california, and feel like " well if I only", ___________" it might of worked. At 31 I worry that it will only get harder in the dating scean.
bluechocolate Posted May 20, 2004 Posted May 20, 2004 You aleady said that you don't think the two of you have what it takes to go long term. And you're worried that being 31 puts you somewhat out of the dating scene. So why waste any more time? No one said it would be easy. You have you friends & family back in California, surely that will help you get over this relationship. Don't dwell on the "What if........", it's such a waste of time & energy & leads nowhere. If you decide to go then think of your future, not your past. I hope things work out for you whatever you decide to do.
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