Imageiko Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 You're thinking too much into this. It's her profile photo. She wants it to be of her...not her and some guy. My thoughts exactly.
denise_xo Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 You're thinking too much into this. It's her profile photo. She wants it to be of her...not her and some guy. She never said you're not her friend. She just doesn't want you in her profile picture. What does that have to do with being friends? This. [ten ch]
oaks Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Thus the reason both men and women can't be friends? That's not even proof that you (just one man) can't be friends with that woman (just one woman). Get a grip.
AHardDaysNight Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 So what? I crop plenty of people out of my photos - men, women, children, whatever. It doesn't mean anything, other than she wants the pic to be of her, and only her, and not her and someone else.
Emilia Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 She thinks she looks good on the photo and she wants everyone to see it. It wouldn't bother you OP if you didn't fancy her - as other posters already pointed out. I've only done this once I think when I needed a recent photo urgently and had to crop out an ex, probably wouldn't bother for a facebook profile photo as I usually post more interesting things than my face there in the first place. I think my male friends would look at me with puzzlement if I asked them whether cropping them out would bother them. Honestly don't think they would give a damn.
TigerCub Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 The funny thing is - if this woman was an unattractive fatty that he just happened to be acquaintances with and she posted the pic of him and her as her profile pic - there would be a thread titled "OMG - Now people are gonna think I'm dating her!!!!":laugh: its only cuz he's attracted to her and she cropped him out that this is now an issue. Its her profile pic, she felt she looked pretty in it - she wanted her profile pic to be of just her - I don't see the big hubabub. If she's cropping you out of all the pics - fine, I see the point. Other than that, what's the big deal? oyi!...So glad I don't do facebook!
Mme. Chaucer Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 I have irrefutable proof that men CAN be friends with women. Rick, Otis, Steve, Erin, Patrick and Ruben, to start with.
zengirl Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 I have a tendency to crop people out of any picture if I'm using it as a profile picture (thus: picture of ME, so people know who I am). I guess I'd maybe put a picture of me and my BF up together, if I were that sort of person (he has a picture of us all snuggly on his FB), but I'm a poor judge, as usually I don't even have a picture of me (sometimes me from a distance, hiking a mountain or something) due to my career/not wanting to be immediately spotted on social networking sites. My FB doesn't have my full name either. I've cropped friends, male and female, out of pics to use on dating sites. I don't see the big deal. Now, if someone had dozens of pictures with you cropped you out of EVERY picture on their entire FB profile but wasn't cropping others. . .maybe that would mean something, OP, but this is just silly.
Queen Zenobia Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 I have this female friend I hang out with sometimes. We've become pretty good "Friends" But I have my doubts now. We had a Halloween get together at an event in downtown area. I asked someone to take our picture together somewhere in front of a statue or something. I uploaded said photos to my FB, she goes to grab THAT photo, and makes her profile pic....for a moment it's both her and me. the next day, she has me all cropped out of it, and just her in the pic. I felt kind of put off about that, but wouldn't anyone be? I think I recall her saying that she tries to keep other men she's with out of her FB pics because she doesn't want other people to think just because they're together, that they're dating. Thus the reason both men and women can't be friends? Ladies, have you deliberately cropped out your male friends in your FB profile because other people might think you're dating? There are two issues at play here. One, I think it's deliberately disingenuous and a little rude to crop people out of photos in the manner that you describe. But as far as male-female platonic relationships in general go I don't think it supports the notion that men and women can't be friends. They can be, but clearly this female friends of yours is insecure in her friendship with you to the extent that she doesn't feel comfortable posting a picture of you and her as her profile picture. When I was single, I did on occasion have profile pictures that had friends in them (both male and female), just never any males that I suspected had deeper feelings for me. Perhaps this is the real issue?
FinOuch Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Ladies, have you deliberately cropped out your male friends in your FB profile because other people might think you're dating? Personally, I have never cropped anyone out of a profile picture specifically because I wouldn't want the friend to take it personally. But, at the same time...I can understand why someone might want to. It isn't a photo album...it's supposed to be a picture that identifies you. Not your friends. Thus I generally tend to shy away from profile pictures that have other people in it in general...unless it is just a D*MN good photo, in which case I leave the friend in to not be rude. Now...as for the guy/girl friendship issue. I shy away from uploading photos that feature me with another male friend altogether. Heck, I shy away from TAKING photos that feature me with another guy (unless it's a group photo). I'm uncomfortable that the automatic assumption would be that we're together, and just not uploading that photo seems easier than making some lame comment such as "out with my buddy". So, I feel that way about photos in my photo album. I can't even IMAGINE making any photo of me and another guy who is not my SO a profile picture! I just wouldn't use the photo at all and find another equally cute one. So I don't think you have proof that men and women can't be friends. I think you've only found proof that people assume a man and woman together in a photo are likely an item. She probably looked phenominal in the photo, and didn't want any confusion. You're probably reading way too much into it.
Stung Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 You can un-tag yourself. Useful feature! Oh I know, I just prefer to not have to in the first place. Also, sometimes I miss it when they go up because I don't check my FB every day so many updates slip through the cracks for a while.
somedude81 Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Did she leave up a copy of the uncropped picture in her photo album? If not have you asked her why? BTW, I do believe that men and women can be friends. Though how good of friends they can be is up for question. I have a female friend that I hang out with a lot and we talk about everything. But I can't count on her at all. She's just too flaky. So I expect nothing from her and just enjoy her company.
oaks Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 I uploaded said photos to my FB, she goes to grab THAT photo, and makes her profile pic....for a moment it's both her and me. Why don't you set your profile pic to the same photo?
serial muse Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Why don't you set your profile pic to the same photo? hahaha, i love this.
dispatch3d Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 This is exactly what I do when I'm pissed at someone. I add a cropped out photo of them to my facebook profile. I probably change my facebook profile picture every week, just to make sure I don't miss anyone.
Cypress25 Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 I know what you mean, man. I actually have the opposite problem. Whenever my girl friends take photos of themselves and another guy, I photoshop my face onto that guy's body, and then upload it so that my photo comes up first on their profile. I like leaving little tokens of our friendship like that -- it's like, yeah we didn't hang out this time, but I love hanging out with you and I wish we could it every night -- and with Photoshop, now we can! You'd think they'd love it -- if they were real friends, they would. But no, then they they get mad at me, and some even ask me to take the pictures down. Of us! Our friendship!Some "friends", right? That's how you know you're dealing with a real bitch. Actually, just forget about being "friends" with a woman, they're seriously only good for sex. :laugh: Love it.
Thieves Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 If you were in a photo with me I would definitely crop you the f*ck out of it too, and I'm a guy. I guess the OP will just have to wait and see if she puts up anymore pictures with him cropped out of them...
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