drewtoledo Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 im 21y/o and my bf is as well. i work nightshift and he still go to school. we dont live together. my bf cybersexed with his ex for 3 times. he didn't tell me but i found it out myself by pretending i knew everything all along. he then told me everything, he told me he was just at home doing nothing online and im at work that night and unavailable thats why he did that. im so hurt when i found out about it. i never thought i would have this kind of problem with him. this was the 1st time we had this issue between us. i said im gonna leave him and look for a better partner that he doesnt deserve me at all. i love him so much that i sacrificed moving near to his place just to be with him. he stopped me and asked for a second chance. he said we will start again, so far we are happier than before but whenever im at the office and he's at home alone. i get paranoid that he may be doing the same thing again. this is really killing me. i forgave him but whenever i remember what he did to me, im hurting so much but i dont want to leave him. what can i do to move on. or will i ever move on to this
norajane Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 Why don't you want to leave him? This time, it was cybersex. Next time he gets bored and you aren't around, what if his ex invites him over to actually have sex? Do you trust he wouldn't do that? I think you need to reconsider whether this boy is the kind of quality man you want to be with. He has already proven he is willing to go behind your back THREE TIMES to masturbate with his naked ex. Is that the kind of "man" you want to be with? Move on. You can do better, and should EXPECT better for your life.
fenderstrathss Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Wanted to chime in and tell you that typically, on the first confrontation, they admit to the bare minimum. If you keep on, the truth will probably trickle out that a lot more than just cyber sex went on.
Author drewtoledo Posted October 28, 2011 Author Posted October 28, 2011 i appreciate all your advice guys. thank you. ill give him another chance and im seeing him change as well. about the thing that he might have done more than cybersex behind my back? it's impossible. im with him all the time and everytime he is free im with his family going out of the country. his ex was 8hrs away from us and jobless, that she cant even ride a bus to go anywhere. lol i will be cool. if he does it again then its over. im doing it behind his back as well. haha.. bad but im just being fair.
Popehappycat Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 i will be cool. if he does it again then its over. im doing it behind his back as well. haha.. bad but im just being fair. Nothing about it is fair. You deserve each other.
KathyM Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 im 21y/o and my bf is as well. i work nightshift and he still go to school. we dont live together. my bf cybersexed with his ex for 3 times. he didn't tell me but i found it out myself by pretending i knew everything all along. he then told me everything, he told me he was just at home doing nothing online and im at work that night and unavailable thats why he did that. im so hurt when i found out about it. i never thought i would have this kind of problem with him. this was the 1st time we had this issue between us. i said im gonna leave him and look for a better partner that he doesnt deserve me at all. i love him so much that i sacrificed moving near to his place just to be with him. he stopped me and asked for a second chance. he said we will start again, so far we are happier than before but whenever im at the office and he's at home alone. i get paranoid that he may be doing the same thing again. this is really killing me. i forgave him but whenever i remember what he did to me, im hurting so much but i dont want to leave him. what can i do to move on. or will i ever move on to this You will always have those doubts about his fidelity. I don't believe they can be erased completely after a betrayal. I would suggest leaving him. He can't be trusted, and he obviously didn't value you and his relationship with you enough to be faithful. You can do waaay better than him. Don't invest more time in this untrustworthy guy.
Author drewtoledo Posted October 31, 2011 Author Posted October 31, 2011 its hard for me to move on when im seeing most of u guys telling me to leave him. i really love this guy and we just came back in town from an out of town trip together. its our 9months together today. i see him changing. he always tells me he will be a good boy now and he will never do that again. he always asks me to sleep in their house which is better coz at least i know he is not going online doing naughty things with his ex, i know he is doing that so that i can see him change for the best. its just the 1st time so im giving him 2nd chance. thanks guys for the advice. keep posting. God bless.
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