tanner012555 Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 (edited) I met my girlfriend in beginning of 2010 on a game called maple story. We became great friends for 9 months we skyped and stuff like that. She lives in San Francisco and I live in orange county. She was 14 i was 18, 4 years apart. After 9 months of talking, talking about sexual stuff with each other etc, I went up to san fran with my dad and met her and met her parents and we had our first kiss. After that we decided to become boyfriend girlfriend. Few months later I went up there by my self for 2 days and saw her again. We made out and did some foreplay. She turned 15 and I turned 19 a few months after that. Our anniversary comes along and we tell each other how much we love each other. I am going up there again in November for a week. Now just yesterday we talk about how she wants to see other guys and date other guys cuz i was her first boyfriend. We have been together for a year and a half now. During the entire time of being together, even though it was long distance we had great communication. We talked every day, we did phone sex, Skype sex, I complemented her everyday and told her i love her everyday and she did the same. Also we have both told each other many times that we changed each others lives. She has also told me that she loves the fact that i care about her, love her, keep her company, and be with her all this time. So ya she doesn't want to break up of course and I don't want to either. But she wants to date other guys because I am the only person she has dated and I am her first boyfriend. Last night when she told me this she didn't seem like she wanted to break up and she thanked me for talking about it with her and she told me she really wants to be with me and ya we went to sleep. I also have told her my plans of moving up to sanfran when she is 18. Oh and finally i think the reason that this is happening is because recently like a month ago her aunt started getting in the way of us talking to each other and communicating with each other etc. we barely talk now and we really want to talk. so i really think that is the biggest cause. What should i do? Thank you for reading, Tanner Edited October 27, 2011 by tanner012555
FrustrationSetsIn Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 She was 14 i was 18, 4 years apart. Now just yesterday we talk about how she wants to see other guys.. She was 14 i was 18... I also have told her my plans of moving up to sanfran when she is 18. She was 14 i was 18... Oh and finally i think the reason that this is happening is because recently like a month ago her aunt started getting in the way of us talking She was 14 i was 18... What should i do? Not to be a complete jackass, but there was one thing in your question that completely stood out. She was 14 i was 18... What should you do? Stop, stop right now and find a woman, not a girl, but a woman. To put it a kinder way, you are of an age to go to an adult prison. This girl isn't of LEGAL AGE! So stop.
Citizen Erased Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 You do realise you can go to jail, right? Grooming a minor for sex.
Author tanner012555 Posted October 28, 2011 Author Posted October 28, 2011 What should you do? Stop, stop right now and find a woman, not a girl, but a woman. Thank you so much FrustrationSetsIn. I already broke up with her and ya. Just those words you said "find a woman, not a girl." idk why i didn't do it before. I will be on this site more. see ya around.
Sake3838 Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 You do realise you can go to jail, right? Grooming a minor for sex. What this person said.. I dont know how to answer to your original post OP.. Im not even sure if I believe your parents met eachother.. Btw Citizen Erased is a great Muse song, if that is what you referenced
ladyravenloft Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 If that had been my daughter you were messing around with, you wouldn't be still breathing to make this post. And she'd be grounded indefinitely off any sort of chat or gaming site. Seriously, under eighteen, NO NO NO NO. No excuses. No acceptable reasons. Just say no.
creighton0123 Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 The others are correct. After she turns 17 or 18 (depending on the age of consent in California), a four year age difference isn't all that much. My significant other and I are four years apart, but I'm 27 and he's 23. Before that, however, you cannot put yourself at risk like that. If you were to upset her or upset her parents in any way, they could easily have you thrown in jail. You would have to live the remainder of your life as a registered sex offender. I'm glad to see that you have broken it off before you went any further.
goodthoughts Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I met my girlfriend in beginning of 2010 on a game called maple story. We became great friends for 9 months we skyped and stuff like that. She lives in San Francisco and I live in orange county. She was 14 i was 18, 4 years apart. After 9 months of talking, talking about sexual stuff with each other etc, I went up to san fran with my dad and met her and met her parents and we had our first kiss. After that we decided to become boyfriend girlfriend. Few months later I went up there by my self for 2 days and saw her again. We made out and did some foreplay. She turned 15 and I turned 19 a few months after that. Our anniversary comes along and we tell each other how much we love each other. I am going up there again in November for a week. Now just yesterday we talk about how she wants to see other guys and date other guys cuz i was her first boyfriend. We have been together for a year and a half now. During the entire time of being together, even though it was long distance we had great communication. We talked every day, we did phone sex, Skype sex, I complemented her everyday and told her i love her everyday and she did the same. Also we have both told each other many times that we changed each others lives. She has also told me that she loves the fact that i care about her, love her, keep her company, and be with her all this time. So ya she doesn't want to break up of course and I don't want to either. But she wants to date other guys because I am the only person she has dated and I am her first boyfriend. Last night when she told me this she didn't seem like she wanted to break up and she thanked me for talking about it with her and she told me she really wants to be with me and ya we went to sleep. I also have told her my plans of moving up to sanfran when she is 18. Oh and finally i think the reason that this is happening is because recently like a month ago her aunt started getting in the way of us talking to each other and communicating with each other etc. we barely talk now and we really want to talk. so i really think that is the biggest cause. What should i do? Thank you for reading, Tanner I'm so sorry to say but i think the girl in question is just too young for all of that and it's against the law as she doesn't have a legal age for stuffs like that yet. You are already matured and you should go get yourself another lady of your age range or a little older...
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