Untouchable_Fire Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 I didn't take it as an insult, I just had to make it clear that I DON'T know how women act on dates because I don't date women. It shouldn't be that big of a surprise. Of course YOU would know because you are a straight man who dates women. It's a no brainer. So....moving on.... If I had received any dick pictures I would have freaked out. No questions asked. Naked torso pictures and pictures of 60 year olds were enough for me. Did they send these pictures right away or after she had corresponded with them? That's disgusting. Some men just want one thing and one thing only. That right there would turn me off from online dating forever. The pics she got were completely unsolicited. I think perhaps because she put up some very sexy photos w/cleavage...ect. It must have worked for those guys at some point... otherwise why do it? The oddest thing is that she said none of the guys were all that impressive in terms of size.
ShannonMI Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 The pics she got were completely unsolicited. I think perhaps because she put up some very sexy photos w/cleavage...ect. It must have worked for those guys at some point... otherwise why do it? The oddest thing is that she said none of the guys were all that impressive in terms of size. Wow how funny is that? Hahahahahaha I would have written back something along the lines of "that's it?" or "I wouldn't be too proud of that honey, please put it back in your pants" just to be a bitch. I guess maybe they figured since she was dressed provocatively, she wanted sex. Why not send a sexy flirty message to her? Why a picture of your less then impressive junk right off the bat? I guess some men want to cut to the chase. Not my idea of dating.
Author PlumPrincess Posted October 29, 2011 Author Posted October 29, 2011 I joined one of those free online dating services just for the hell of it and had my profile up for about 24 hours. I got so many weird men and weird messages that I ended up deleting it because I was getting freaked out. I didn't reply to any of them. The men were desperate and or horny is what I would think. One guy looked like he was older then my father and he messaged me like 3 times. It creeped me out. Another guy looked like a legit serial killer. He had this weird close up picture of his face and torso he looked like he was possibly naked. Maybe just shirtless, but still just didn't get a good vibe. Then there were others that were making these stupid faces. Not sure what they were going for with that. Maybe to show they have a sense of humor? Either way, it bugged me out and I deleted that sh*t and wouldn't join another site ever again. I'll rely on good old fashion "going out and meeting people" dating. Screw the online thing. I had similar experiences and it creeps me out the same... I've also met nice guys though and there is one that I'm somewhat interested in seeing again, so I'm torn between between deleting my account and running away as fast as I can and holding out until I'm no longer single.
ShannonMI Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 I had similar experiences and it creeps me out the same... I've also met nice guys though and there is one that I'm somewhat interested in seeing again, so I'm torn between between deleting my account and running away as fast as I can and holding out until I'm no longer single. Well if you found a few that were interesting then keep your profile. There were like 2 attractive, non-creepy guys when I had my profile but they were like 21 or 22. I'm 32. I love young guys, but a man who is 10 years younger isn't what I'm looking for. The rest gave me the creeps. Online dating just isn't for me.
Anela Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 I heard from a man who sounded very nice the other day, but he was 53, and obviously hadn't checked out my profile properly. I told him that I was sure he was a nice person, but that I wasn't looking right now (I'm not, I just hadn't deactivated the profile - but I had noted it IN the profile - the site is for making friends, too, supposedly). I know that people say that what others are attracted to is their business - and it's usually women having to say that, when venting about the lack of men interested in themselves - but the man was 53, and overlooking women his own age. That bothered me, so I added something in my profile about not wanting men over a certain age, to contact me, if they're overlooking women their own age. I hardly heard from anyone after that! (I first had it in there over a month ago, and then removed it, afraid that I was being too hard on people, but then I saw several more men who had lower age requirements for women they wanted, and then heard from this guy, so back it went.)
Symetrical-Siren Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 After I've said no to someone....if he messages me again to say anything other than "thanks" or "good luck", then I BLOCK them. Same go's for those that obviously didn't read the profile. I don't even bother replying to them at all. I just flat out BLOCK them period. Why waste your time, and get annoyed with their excuses ?
grkBoy Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 I used to give nice replies to every message I received, because I thought it's a question of politeness and courtesy, but I'm really starting to believe that the other women who do no reply to every message are way smarter than I am. They don't waste time at all with nonsense. And at the same time I think being nice and replying is encouraging their stupid behavior, so punish them and don't reply. I think you should do the nice replies to guys who send you good emails that align with what you want. So a guy who wants to date, lives in your neck of the woods, emails you...you're not interested, but he wrote a good email...reply nicely. Guy who lives 100 miles away is looking to see if you want to do a booty call...delete and move on with no reply. Are the guys just lazy and stupid? Or completely desperate? Men and women both have the commonality that they go on dating sites and only look at the 2-3 things they want to see. So guys see a pretty girl in a distance they are willing to drive. They ignore the rest and just come out with what they want. They email hundreds of women, playing the "numbers game" in the hope that they'll get a reply from one girl for all those emails. Women are only similar in that many will immediately just see if he's "hot" in his photos, if he's got a good income, distance, and if he's got any kids. If the guy passes those hurdles, then she'll read and possibly reply. Grow a thick skin, this is online dating. AND...don't go rewriting your profile to lament on these guys and demand men write you good emails and are looking for a RL. Most guys won't bother reading or caring. It won't stop anything. And how do you handle that kind of messages? I'm not a woman, so I've never received those when I tried online dating. My advice is just delete them with no reply. Maybe block them if they keep trying.
Author PlumPrincess Posted October 29, 2011 Author Posted October 29, 2011 but the man was 53, and overlooking women his own age. That bothered me, so I added something in my profile about not wanting men over a certain age, to contact me, if they're overlooking women their own age. I hardly heard from anyone after that! (I first had it in there over a month ago, and then removed it, afraid that I was being too hard on people, but then I saw several more men who had lower age requirements for women they wanted, and then heard from this guy, so back it went.) That might be my favorite pet peeve and the reason why I reject most guys, even guys with whom I have more than 90 % matches. It reduces the dating pool significantly, but you have to do what you have to do...
oaks Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 the site is for making friends, too, supposedly). Really? I know lots of dating sites have options to say you are looking for "Friends" but I don't believe it. Whenever I search for people who are looking for "Friends" on dating sites they are generally looking only for opposite-sex "Friends" and they have their profiles filled out in a way that suggests they are looking to date.
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