Bigbot Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 Last weeken I asked a girl out, I will admit it was kinda at the last minute and she responded that she would have loved to have joined me, but she had a family commitment that she had to attend. She thought it would have be fun to get together and asked for a rain check. Yesterday I asked her out again using her "Rain Check" if she would like to get together sometime during the week / weekend for dinner / drinks and a movie. She responded that she would love to, but was heading out of town and would not be back until Monday. I let her know that I had not dated (asked a girl out) in a long time (separation with divorce coming from wife - she know this) and that I would like to get to know her better and found her extremely attractive, but I would also understand if she wanted to keep our relationship on a professional level. I asked her to let me know if thats what she wants and that I hope my e-mail was not to forward or offend her. She responded that I did not offend her at all, she just has not had time to e-mail as she had a very busy day at work. Have not heard anything from her as of yet today. Should I give it a third try next week or leave it be?
rightfield Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 Definitely give it another try. You gave her an out, and she didn't take it. At this point, I'd take her at her word and ask her out again. And do it verbally, not via email or text.
Dorie Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 Her "excuses" sound authentic. Try one more time IN PERSON or by phone, and be specific. Have the day and activity chosen before speaking with her. Keep it simple ("Saturday for dinner out") and move on if she delays the date again.
dasein Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 One, and only one more try. She should have suggested specific optional dates and times by now if she were quality. Typical self-absorbed privileged types of women will let you continue to work and work to try to spend time with her without making it easy for you. Or she could simply not be very interested. It's about 50/50 based on what you post, neither is good. There is still a BS POV among many women that a man is supposed to "fight for them" from the get go, and this makes no sense in 2011 when meeting new strangers. If she is one of those simply move on to other options and leave her to her delusions.
Lobouspo Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 I would give it one more shot and if she blows you off......I would just move on. I agree with the previous post. She is playing hard to get or is just not that interested. Either way its probably not good
Author Bigbot Posted October 27, 2011 Author Posted October 27, 2011 Thanks everyone. I think I'll will give it another shot next week.
Mar1neOne Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 I am not really big on playing games, but it sounds like to me that you should let it be. She knows you are interested. She knows you have asked her out twice. Now make yourself a little unavailable and see if she asks you out. Chances are if she likes you then she will come and talk to you about it.
Author Bigbot Posted October 28, 2011 Author Posted October 28, 2011 Interesting theory Mar1neOne. Yes she does know and i have asked twice, but both times i feel the reasons were ligitimate. I did give her an out which she did not use. I think I will attempt once more than use your suggestion.
ChessPieceFace Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 If a girl is interested in a guy, she will do almost anything to make things happen and/or show her interest. However, she may just not care that much at this point, rather than disliking you. Personally, I wouldn't ask a 3rd time. See if she initiates any contact.
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