johnny_s51 Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 I am just curious if anybody has insight into how common it is for women to be attracted to their children's friends or acquaintences. I think a carpool friend's mother is sending me signals but I'm not sure if I'm just getting a case of "wishful thinking". Is it common for women to flirt with their kids friends? If so, does the flirting lead anywhere. any advice would be great. Thanks in advance.
KathyM Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 I am just curious if anybody has insight into how common it is for women to be attracted to their children's friends or acquaintences. I think a carpool friend's mother is sending me signals but I'm not sure if I'm just getting a case of "wishful thinking". Is it common for women to flirt with their kids friends? If so, does the flirting lead anywhere. any advice would be great. Thanks in advance. I think you're confusing friendliness toward's her child's friends with romantic interest. I doubt she's interested. Most women would never consider doing anything with their child's friends, and I'm sure you wouldn't want to damage your friendship by hitting on the friend's mother, so I would suggest you put those thoughts out of your mind.
Emilia Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 I think you're confusing friendliness toward's her child's friends with romantic interest. I doubt she's interested. Most women would never consider doing anything with their child's friends, and I'm sure you wouldn't want to damage your friendship by hitting on the friend's mother, so I would suggest you put those thoughts out of your mind. Just because you can't imagine it, it doesn't mean it doesn't happen OP, it's probably best if you get her out of your mind. I'm sure she is hot and I know you would like someone with experience but it could go wrong in so many ways even before you got to the sex part. If she is the mum of one of your friends you could lose that friendship over something that may not even turn into anything physical. It is very unlikely that she would want to deal with the trouble of having a fling like this.
OpenBook Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 Think of her as a big jungle cat who plays with her prey (you, the mouse), softly & gently batting it around with her huge furry paws (claws drawn in at the moment) as a buildup to the kill. After a few moments she will tire of it and CHWOMPPP - it's Good Night Irene for you, my friend. You do not want to go there!
Author johnny_s51 Posted October 27, 2011 Author Posted October 27, 2011 Just because you can't imagine it, it doesn't mean it doesn't happen OP, it's probably best if you get her out of your mind. I'm sure she is hot and I know you would like someone with experience but it could go wrong in so many ways even before you got to the sex part. If she is the mum of one of your friends you could lose that friendship over something that may not even turn into anything physical. It is very unlikely that she would want to deal with the trouble of having a fling like this. I just like the fantasy about it. It's fun. I doubt it will lead anywhere either... but ... a little harmless flirting is fun and it's kinda cool having this between us. is it common for women to have that thought? Even if they know it won't lead anywhere, you can't deny thinking about it. I think it's hot that the tought exists ... an ego builder. Then again, thoughts can lead to action I guess.
KathyM Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 Just because you can't imagine it, it doesn't mean it doesn't happen OP, it's probably best if you get her out of your mind. I'm sure she is hot and I know you would like someone with experience but it could go wrong in so many ways even before you got to the sex part. If she is the mum of one of your friends you could lose that friendship over something that may not even turn into anything physical. It is very unlikely that she would want to deal with the trouble of having a fling like this. Yeah, I'm sure it does happen. I didn't say it doesn't happen. I'm saying he's probably misinterpreting friendliness for romantic interest. In any case, it would be destructive of him to pursue something with his friend's mother, and would probably end the friendship.
Eve Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 Yes I have heard of this happening. No happy endings reported so far. I can understand low level flirting on the part of the younger person to an extent but personally I would see it as predatory like behaviour if she is in fact giving you signals - but if you like that sort of thing, you like it I suppose. I would agree with the other posters that such a situation could really alter your friendship with her son/daughter though for sure. Take care, Eve x
Author johnny_s51 Posted October 27, 2011 Author Posted October 27, 2011 No happy endings in what sense?
Eve Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 No happy endings in what sense? Just that... no happy endings. In one situation the child went to live with a sister when he found out what his mate and Mum had been up to, even though she was single at the time. For some it just alters relationships too much. Others not so much because it does not stray too far from their lifestyle choices. So I guess the marker is whether the woman and you have similar world views. To some what you ask is a walk in the park - but I have not heard any positive stories. Anyhow, it depends on the age difference. I am talking about teens to very early twenties in most of the situations with women my age and older. But I can identify a range of negative commonalities within how these encounters end - if people find out. Take care, Eve x
Author johnny_s51 Posted October 27, 2011 Author Posted October 27, 2011 So you are saying that if anything happens, make sure nobody finds out.
Emilia Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 So you are saying that if anything happens, make sure nobody finds out. You can't. It will come out one way or another
Eve Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 So you are saying that if anything happens, make sure nobody finds out. Lol, I can't say that! Obviously you have to make your own choices in such circumstances! Personally I see it as temptation. I can only comment on what I have seen when people do find out. For example, one commonality I have seen is that usually one side seems to end up wanting the encounters more than the other in the end. This leads to confiding in others and them BAM, everyone knows. Also seen a young teen boy become obsessed with the woman who really was just looking for an ego boost. He was a bit weird anyway but that backfired on her when the neighbours and her ex husband found out. Ouch! OP, if this really is an option, really think through the downsides as well as having a bit off sex or whatever. But I don't know, you may be one of those people who as I said like that sort of thing. Take care, Eve x
Author johnny_s51 Posted October 27, 2011 Author Posted October 27, 2011 You can't. It will come out one way or another Speaking from experience?
Author johnny_s51 Posted October 27, 2011 Author Posted October 27, 2011 Lol, I can't say that! Obviously you have to make your own choices in such circumstances! Personally I see it as temptation. I can only comment on what I have seen when people do find out. For example, one commonality I have seen is that usually one side seems to end up wanting the encounters more than the other in the end. This leads to confiding in others and them BAM, everyone knows. Also seen a young teen boy become obsessed with the woman who really was just looking for an ego boost. He was a bit weird anyway but that backfired on her when the neighbours and her ex husband found out. Ouch! OP, if this really is an option, really think through the downsides as well as having a bit off sex or whatever. But I don't know, you may be one of those people who as I said like that sort of thing. Take care, Eve x I'm not saying anything will happen... only that the thought is hot. I was more curious as to how common this is as it's not the first time I think an older woman has flirted with me... it got me thinking it might just be me. For the record, I'm 20, she's mid to late 40s
Eve Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 I'm not saying anything will happen... only that the thought is hot. I was more curious as to how common this is as it's not the first time I think an older woman has flirted with me... it got me thinking it might just be me. For the record, I'm 20, she's mid to late 40s I would say that it is ok to have a crush on this woman and hopefully you actually like her as a person too. Without being patronising, you are very young and I certainly hope that you will see aspects that you like in lots and lots of different women! But yes, it does happen. Of course it does! There is nothing new under the sun. When young ones flirt with me there is no way I would dismiss them because that could hurt their feelings. Hence, it could just be flirting on her part and she may have boundaries in place that will kick in if you take things too far. But yeah, maybe there is actually more to this though? If there is, just think with the head which is above your waist as well. But I hear you, I know you are not saying it will happen.. Take care, Eve x
Eve Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 Oh, one final thing. Think about how this makes your friend feel, or would make them feel if they knew - especially if it is a female. People lusting after ones Mum may sound like the ultimate fantasy but in real life this can create a lot of insecurity. Or just be annoying. All the best with things, Take care, Eve x
Author johnny_s51 Posted October 27, 2011 Author Posted October 27, 2011 Oh, one final thing. Think about how this makes your friend feel, or would make them feel if they knew - especially if it is a female. People lusting after ones Mum may sound like the ultimate fantasy but in real life this can create a lot of insecurity. Or just be annoying. All the best with things, Take care, Eve x I'm not too concerned. He is not my friend but rather a friend of friend. have you experienced this sort of taboo thing first hand?
Woggle Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 I don't have an issue with the cougar thing but stay away from your kid's friends. That goes for both genders.
Eve Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 I'm not too concerned. He is not my friend but rather a friend of friend. have you experienced this sort of taboo thing first hand? Oh, it's a friend of a friend. Be careful still. Some kids can get really protective of their parents. Like primal protective. I had to push my daughter into the car as she was going to punch the lights out off some boy who called me a 'milf' the other day whilst I was at the postbox. I thought he said 'milk' and just considered that maybe he was learning disabled or something. No I don't have such experiences. Couldn't be bothered with anything like that, mainly because I have children of that age and only choose to open myself up to meaningful experiences. I am sure others here have had such experience/s though. Take care, Eve x
Emilia Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Speaking from experience? You mean knowing how mouthy teenagers brag and can't keep their trap shut? Yes I used to be a teenager
Emilia Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 For the record, I'm 20, she's mid to late 40s Ah. Then you are an adult... almost. You should ask her out if she isn't married
betterdeal Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 I do wish Yummy Mummy made a comeback as a phrase.
Author johnny_s51 Posted October 28, 2011 Author Posted October 28, 2011 I don't have an issue with the cougar thing but stay away from your kid's friends. That goes for both genders. The whole "taboo" aspect of this is what makes it exciting.
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