quietGuy13 Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 Sorry but it's kind of funny... well yeah but that's what happening. I recently signed up for a dating site, what a waste of money cause i can't even enjoy it. My parents are emotinally abusive and i'm even crying now So let me change the question a bit Is it totally stupid to look for friends and GF when you live in an abusive(emotion) situation at home?
Cracker Jack Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 I think it is. Sounds like you're in no position to be dating. If you read this and expect to reply, how much did you pay for the dating site?
Jynxx Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 Get out of there man. Find a way to make rent money, go work a second job if you need to, drastically cut spendings if you need to but it's vital that you get out of there. No excuses.
oaks Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 Is it totally stupid to look for friends and GF when you live in an abusive(emotion) situation at home? Well, we try to improve what we can. Of course you can look, and you might even find a GF, but since you recognise that you're being emotionally abused at home then that might be a more important thing to try to change. Can you move out? Can you get (professional) help/counselling?
Mrlonelyone Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 How old are you? If your over 18 then as it has been said try to get that rent money and get out of there. If you are under 18 then you might want to call child protective services and they will help you move out + your parents abusing you would definately be against the law. Dating when you are in that kind of situation would be a bad idea.
AHardDaysNight Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 The OP is 31, Mrlonely, or at least that's what he says. Look, dude. There is nothing wrong with living at home, if you have a healthy relationship with your family, and you're able to socially function in the real world. As harsh as that sounds, it doesn't sound like you're ready to date. And until you are, you shouldn't.
Mme. Chaucer Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 (edited) I think you need to move out of your parents' home, if it's an unhealthy environment for you. According to your posting history, you have quite a few issues you're dealing with. Some of them make it unrealistic for you to live on your own. Is this right? If it is, can you look into the possibility of moving into a group home? Whatever issues you have, gaining some independence from your parents would probably be good for you, especially if they are emotionally abusing you. What other support do you have? Therapists, or doctors? They could help you get going in that direction. I wouldn't be surprised if you have family members - maybe even your parents themselves, who could support and help you find out where and how you can move. Even if you have extra challenges, there is no reason for you to live in the role as your parents' dependent child forever. If you lived elsewhere, your relationship might be able to improve, as well. If you get into a situation that's better for you emotionally, you will be much more equipped to deal with the ups and downs of dating. Edited October 27, 2011 by Mme. Chaucer
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