dontstopbelieving Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 Today I wrote my ex a friendly email...just a simple hi and all is well. I was expecting a cold distant email back, and truthfully I wanted that. I need something to hate him for so I can let him go. We only dated for 4 months and he was always nice and respectful for me. The breakup came as a shock and he did it in such a respectful way. I tried to go on with my life, trying to accept that it just wasn't right but I can't help but think things were my fault. I can't really name many flaws he had for me to dismiss him. I sometimes wish that he was a jerk or a cheat or something to help me let it go easier. He has yet to respond to the email. Am I crazy for trying to find flaws to let it go?
Bobby289 Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 Wanting to hate him to make it easier for you is only going to make things worse. He was nice enough to be respectful to you when he ended it so why do you want to make negative tension. You don't know why he ended it but don's assume the worst. You are not crazy at all it is perfectly normal, it is easy to let go when you you have negative feeling, and hard when they are positive.
sallyho Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 hi there i have every reason to hate my ex he cheated on me he never took me out he told me at times that he didnt think i was good enough for him but that he could do worse than me and that i might be the woman for him he really messed with my head.i was with him for 6months but i still cant hate him i wish i could i just keep thinking of the good times we had i know thats wrong i had a really low day yesterday i was so tempted to text him but im glad i didnt i want him to have time on his own and if hes really sorry and misses me he will come back and if he dosent i have to move on its hard but we cant make someone want us.
Author dontstopbelieving Posted October 27, 2011 Author Posted October 27, 2011 Thanks Bobby. You're right, he did end it the right way. I really need to work on forgiving myself and him. Well he hasn't responded yet either way so I just need to let it go. I've been dating but I feel like since I never forgave myself yet its affecting any other chances I may have with anyone else. Sallyho, I'm sorry you went through that. No one deserves to be treated that way. I'm sorry for wishing my ex was an *******, knowing there are people who really do treat ppl bad. I hope you stay strong and continue NC... You deserve someone who will appreciate how great you are. I will do the same from now on...team nc!
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