daphne Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 Went out with the Canuck. We have a lot in common. We had a great date. He asked me to play tennis this weekend. He sent out all of the right signals. I'm giddy. I feel, however, that I need to come back down to earth. I need to see if he is as good as he comes across. Very down to earth, great values, nice guy and very level headed. Doesn't seem to have a lot of baggage or demons he's working out. I'm not used to having a guy check off all of the right boxes. It's a bit intimidating. And it was endearing that he seemed even more nervous to meet me than I was. I don't usually get nervous on these dates. Sigh. I need to slow down.
cerridwen Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 Went out with the Canuck. We have a lot in common. We had a great date. He asked me to play tennis this weekend. He sent out all of the right signals. I'm giddy. I feel, however, that I need to come back down to earth. I need to see if he is as good as he comes across. Very down to earth, great values, nice guy and very level headed. Doesn't seem to have a lot of baggage or demons he's working out. I'm not used to having a guy check off all of the right boxes. It's a bit intimidating. And it was endearing that he seemed even more nervous to meet me than I was. I don't usually get nervous on these dates. Sigh. I need to slow down. No you don't. Enjoy this daphne! From one career girl to another, the blush of first crush is just what the doctor ordered. Work, work, more play. I'm happy for you! Oh la la.
Cee Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 Good values, down to earth, no baggage...He sounds dreamy. Hope it goes well this weekend.
Author daphne Posted October 27, 2011 Author Posted October 27, 2011 No you don't. Enjoy this daphne! From one career girl to another, the blush of first crush is just what the doctor ordered. Work, work, more play. I'm happy for you! Oh la la. Oh là là is right. He was a cutie! I don't know if I'm comfortable with crushes. I like working my way into it. This seems too good to be true. And my father used to say... But damn on paper we're a match. I'm just worried, that like all guys who want to get laid, he's saying all of the right things. He even asked if I would ever move to another part of town that we both like. It took me til the drive home to realize what he was implying. But yeah, if he ends up being the real deal I'll play more. Screw work.
Author daphne Posted October 27, 2011 Author Posted October 27, 2011 Good values, down to earth, no baggage...He sounds dreamy. Hope it goes well this weekend. He was my kind of dreamy. Maybe boring to others but I like stable guys. He looked drama free, but we'll see. Thanks. I hope he doesn't kick my a$$ too bad. :bunny:
Star Gazer Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 Good for you!!! I just got home from THE WORST DATE OF ALL TIME and I am thrilled to be reminded that great first dates still exist!!! I'm not used to having a guy check off all of the right boxes. What boxes are you referring to? Personal boxes, or relationship quality boxes?
oaks Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 I'm giddy. Woohoo! I feel, however, that I need to come back down to earth. Hush, now. Enjoy the feeling. Glad you had a good date.
alphamale Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 Went out with the Canuck. We have a lot in common. We had a great date. He asked me to play tennis this weekend. He sent out all of the right signals. I'm giddy. I feel, however, that I need to come back down to earth. I need to see if he is as good as he comes across. Very down to earth, great values, nice guy and very level headed. Doesn't seem to have a lot of baggage or demons he's working out. I'm not used to having a guy check off all of the right boxes. It's a bit intimidating. And it was endearing that he seemed even more nervous to meet me than I was. I don't usually get nervous on these dates. Sigh. I need to slow down. for now just enjoy the perfection, eventually some of his faults will become apparent as no one is perfect...
Author daphne Posted October 27, 2011 Author Posted October 27, 2011 Good for you!!! I just got home from THE WORST DATE OF ALL TIME and I am thrilled to be reminded that great first dates still exist!!! What boxes are you referring to? Personal boxes, or relationship quality boxes? Relationship quality boxes. I'm pretty sure he's met all of the non negotiables. Woohoo! Hush, now. Enjoy the feeling. Glad you had a good date. lol. The feeling I have is out of control. I don't really enjoy it. A gf at work was surprised to see me like this. for now just enjoy the perfection, eventually some of his faults will become apparent as no one is perfect... Yes. I'm sure I'll find out at some point. It is nice to know that what I've been looking for in a guy wasn't unreasonable. I just hope whatever his faults are, are totally normal and liveable.
Author daphne Posted October 27, 2011 Author Posted October 27, 2011 We've been texting a lot today. I am trying to pull the reigns on this, so we don't get carried away. I did a sanity check today, to make sure I didn't imagine high interest on his part like I did with the Scot. Nope. He asked me out before the end of the date and told me how excited he was to have met me. There was a moment when we were talking about how much we had in common and we just looked at each other and smiled. As if to say "Holy crap. What do we do about this?" Knowing fully well that there was quite a bit of potential there, and probably more than we'd ever expected to see on line. He did the thing I saw in a commercial once where 2 people who are just beginning to date ask suburbs or intown. Cats or dogs. Boy or girl. He asked me where I wanted to live. Where I want to travel next. He even joked that we'd go house hunting in an area of town we both like this weekend. I feel really goofy gushing. I do not seem to be able to stop tho.
Cee Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Gushing is refreshing on here. Sometimes all of us need to hear the positive side of dating, rather than the stories like how the guy cleaned his earwax with the dinner fork.
Star Gazer Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Relationship quality boxes. I'm pretty sure he's met all of the non negotiables. ^5!
Nexus One Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 (edited) Sounds great Daphne, I'm happy for you, I hope things work out. I just got home from THE WORST DATE OF ALL TIME What went wrong Star? Edited October 28, 2011 by Nexus One
Author daphne Posted October 28, 2011 Author Posted October 28, 2011 Gushing is refreshing on here. Sometimes all of us need to hear the positive side of dating, rather than the stories like how the guy cleaned his earwax with the dinner fork. He he. Those make funny stories... later. But enduring them feels like someone is playing a prank on you. I wonder if that's how Star's date went. ^5! Something tells me you get the Patti reference.
Stung Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Went out with the Canuck. We have a lot in common. We had a great date. He asked me to play tennis this weekend. He sent out all of the right signals. I'm giddy. I feel, however, that I need to come back down to earth. I need to see if he is as good as he comes across. Very down to earth, great values, nice guy and very level headed. Doesn't seem to have a lot of baggage or demons he's working out. I'm not used to having a guy check off all of the right boxes. It's a bit intimidating. And it was endearing that he seemed even more nervous to meet me than I was. I don't usually get nervous on these dates. Sigh. I need to slow down. Well, sanity checks are responsible, and everything...but don't pull yourself right down into the doldrums, either. Enjoy the moment! Have a good time! An awesome first date is rare and should be appreciated.
Star Gazer Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 What went wrong Star? You know... I've had some horrible dates before. Unattractive. Lack of hygiene. Disheveled. Talked about their exes. Annoying hyena laugh. Stupid. Ignorant. Insulting. Whatever. But by far the worst is when it's like pulling teeth to have a conversation. I felt like I was engaging with a one-word-responding-staring-robot. I wanted to stab myself in my eye with my fork. So when I see people having dates that make them giddy... well, I'm THANKFUL that dates like that are still possible!
Author daphne Posted October 28, 2011 Author Posted October 28, 2011 You know... I've had some horrible dates before. Unattractive. Lack of hygiene. Disheveled. Talked about their exes. Annoying hyena laugh. Stupid. Ignorant. Insulting. Whatever. But by far the worst is when it's like pulling teeth to have a conversation. I felt like I was engaging with a one-word-responding-staring-robot. I wanted to stab myself in my eye with my fork. So when I see people having dates that make them giddy... well, I'm THANKFUL that dates like that are still possible! Love the talking about their exes thing, that they just broke up with a month ago. Told myself if that happened on this date I was going to wish him a good night, leave some cash on the table and leave. And bad manners. Egotistical behavior. Fishing for compliments (how do I stack up against the other guys my age?) Ed Hardy shirts. Telling you that their exes are all psychos. Telling you about the 20 somethings that they've been dating. How do these jacka$$es find women to have relationships with? I wish there were easier ways to detect these things on a profile. Like if a certain number of women clicked the jacka$$ button instead of like, you'd be forewarned.
alphamale Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Yes. I'm sure I'll find out at some point. It is nice to know that what I've been looking for in a guy wasn't unreasonable. I just hope whatever his faults are, are totally normal and liveable. just keep in mind that in general the straighter the arrow the more skeletons in the closet...
Author daphne Posted October 28, 2011 Author Posted October 28, 2011 just keep in mind that in general the straighter the arrow the more skeletons in the closet... Crap. I hope not. You're going to have me google stalking him soon.
Star Gazer Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 (edited) Like if a certain number of women clicked the jacka$$ button instead of like, you'd be forewarned. GENIUS idea! Edited October 28, 2011 by Star Gazer
Stung Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 just keep in mind that in general the straighter the arrow the more skeletons in the closet... Aw, not always. I don't want to scare you Daphne but the last time I had a date like that was about six years ago...and now he's upstairs convincing our stubborn toddler to get back in bed. I kept waiting for the other shoe to drop, too. Of course now I know he's not perfect, but he's still pretty damn good.
Star Gazer Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 I don't want to scare you Daphne but the last time I had a date like that was about six years ago...and now he's upstairs convincing our stubborn toddler to get back in bed. :love:
alphamale Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 Aw, not always. I didn't say "always", i said "in general"
alphamale Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 You're going to have me google stalking him soon. sure, why not? everyone does it. keep yourself as safe as possible.
oaks Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 I feel really goofy gushing. I do not seem to be able to stop tho. I'm glad you've found someone you like.
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