pinkie Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 Ok, the jist of it all is this: She can't stand to be alone, has gone through men like underwear in the last year (after dissolution of dysfunctional 3 yr relationship). She always thinks they are "the one" when they first meet. Then she gets bored or finds a fault. She's extremely hypocritical.. Broke as a joke, but refuses to live within her means. She's extremely hyperactive just constantly go go go...or extremely down and sleeps a lot. She is always changing her mind about plans we've made. If she does anything to make me feel like crap and I say something to her about it, she completely dismisses it. However, if she has something to say, she talks to you like you're her child. (Not just me, but other friends too) She's obsessed with money. Meeting someone with it, partying with someone with it, marrying someone with it... and it's so obvious! Anytime we go anywhere, it depends on 'where' we're going, that will determine if she goes or not. I've seen her slum around... it's just so ridiculous. She only acts as though I'm good enough to be around if she's hungry, thirsty (for a beer), or I have something going on that she might benefit from. We've been close for about a year, reconnecting from about 12 yrs ago where we were mere acquaintances. She's a grown woman, living at home with her mother. I personally think she's miserable and possibly depressed. I just don't know how to maintain a friendship with someone who is constantly on a rollercoaster... She's a complete flake and a phony... Any advice?
doushenka Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 It sounds like something's going on in there, but it's irresponsible at best to attempt a diagnosis online (especially if one is not a professional). What you could do, however, is gently suggest she see someone about the troubles she's having. From personal experience, when I was badly off, yeah, I came off like that. Treatment helped me treat other people better.
KathyM Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 It would be wise to see a counselor if she's having trouble coping with or managing her life. You may want to suggest she see someone to work out her problems. Don't suggest to her that she's bipolar. That term is overused and often misdiagnosed.
Author pinkie Posted October 27, 2011 Author Posted October 27, 2011 Thank you doushenka and KathyM for your responses. I absolutely would never make the suggestion to her that she may be Bipolar. However, I think you're both right that I should suggest she someone to help her cope/manage her life more effectively. Thanks again!
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