newtodating25 Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 I met this guy at a bar, I hit on him when I was drunk, I told him to call me, he called and we hung out..the next day..we did everything except have sex, Because I'd been celibate for a while, but the chemistry was insane..i really like him he went down on me better than any man I've ever been with..when I asked when we were gnna see each other again, he told me he didn't want to feel obligated to being in a relationship Because he just got out of a 4 year relationship,3 months ago, I agreed cause I just got out of a 7 year relatioship 4 months ago..so I suggested to be friends with benefits, and he agreed..so he gets home and texts me a really sweet text message like he enjoyed himself, hoped it was mutual, he found our convos stimulating and that I filled his mind with a bunch of insights and ideas, and wanted me study hard for an exam tomorrow, and hoped I found the convos just as stimulating...so obviously I wrote back really excited saying the feeling was defintetly mutual and that I couldn't wait to hang out again and that I never met anyone like him in a very long time...he doesn't respond..then 3 days later I text him at 1 pm Friday asking if he would like to hang out this weekend?..he didn't respond so I texted him at 11:30 pm that night saying on second thought, we don't have to hang out Because I understand your perspective on lack of attachments, and I guess I got carried away Because I was just in the mood to get it on and hadn't done it in a while, I'm not looking for a relationship either, if you don't wanna be fwbs that's fine...so I told him to text me whenever a week, month didn't matter...He doesn't write back until Sunday and this is what he said below, word for word:::It's the longest text I've ever received from a guy::: "hey what I'm saying is..I really appreciate your response to my actions(or lack of action) after the last text I sent to you. This gives me a little more cetatinty that we can be "true" friends in figuring out whatever it is this life may mean. The fact that you were able to respond in a respectful way to my non-action tells me a lot about you and the sincerity of last Friday's experience. I have hope because you were able to understand that just because I responded to Friday in the way I did, you could make the assumption that I was completely bad. No matter how much you think I am bad at this moment. I and seemingly yourself as well are aware of the small chance that I am not all bad. I want to tell you that your first impression of me was not all wrong. In my my mind I am inherently good to the extent that it may be true. I can't say when our paths will cross for certainty. But whenever that moment may be, I will do my best to embrace you as a friend. Thank you (: " He added the smiley face at the end...i didn't respond yet...but is he no longer interested? all my friends say he's not.
Eddie Edirol Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 no hes not. If he was interested, he would have answered you the first time you texted him.
MizHoney2U Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 No, he's not interested. at least he's honest enough with himself to know that he can't handle a FWBS. no need for you to reply back to him either.
Author newtodating25 Posted October 28, 2011 Author Posted October 28, 2011 ok so i just wanted to be his friend..i texted him 2 days ago a week after he sent me that confusing text just to wish him a happy birthday, not to hang out..since it would appear too clingy.. My text=---"hey i just wanted to wish you a very happy birthday! i remembered it was your bday when we were talking about horoscopes (; cheers! His response--30 minuts later "Tanks mon(: sorry if im responding to this message way late. I was sort of being detained against my will. Some peeps thought i was crazy apparently.I was let out today and am just as determined as ever to spread jah love. I hope all is well with you too. Thanks for remembering my bday. That was very sweet of you (: My response 30 mins later Ha! You're welcome, what? why would they think you're crazy haha you sound like you're about to smoke a big one with all that jamaican talk..bettter smoke a big one for me and my car cuz someone hit my bumper and didn't leave a note..but could be worse! just get very high tonight and embrace your inner scorpio lol his response 5 mins later.. haha im all about forgiveness but i don't know how i'd feel if i was in ur shoes right now. YOu should have the smoke instead (: I haven't responded yet, cuz i really just want to be his friend at this point cuz he was really sweet, when we hung out, we talked in great detail about life, our ex's our opionions on life after death etc..he was the one doing all the asking so that's why its hard for me to move on i need CLOSURE...should i just text him a week from now and say he are we ever gnna hang out again
Author newtodating25 Posted October 28, 2011 Author Posted October 28, 2011 Ok, i have finally accepted it, i guess i was holding on to hope for no reason, I regret even wishing him a happy birthday! I promise I'm not pshycho i was just in denail, but he is removed from my phone and will never text or pursue a guy like that again!
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