randy90631 Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I've been talking/seeing an amazing girl since 9/21. From from my perspective, things are going well. We've been progressing at a good pace. I enjoy the time I spend with her and look forward to each time we see each other. We met on a dating website designed for people looking for a serious relationship. We have similar interests, values and goals for the future. I think we've been on 6 dates. I've done all the initiating so far, including texts/phone calls. Be are both in our early 30's. No baggage from the both of us. The only wrinkle I see if she has a tough time expressing herself. Not a big deal to me, since her actions thus far indicate that she enjoys my company. We've been very physical to almost sleeping with each other. I did inform her that I want to wait until we are couple before having sex. She has all the qualities of a good girlfriend for me. I have two dates with her this week. Tomorrow night we are watching a documentary and on Sunday I'm introducing her to my best friends, that happen to be married. Because she doesn't readily express her thoughts, I think that I'll have to suggest exclusiveness as some point. I'm already there, I've closed my dating website profile about a week ago and my dating philosophy is that I only date one girl at a time, especially after three dates. I'm a little traditional when it comes to dating. Since I'm in my 30's, I don't want to waste any energy on someone that doesn't want the same thing I do. The whole "title" thing doesn't really matter to me. My motivation is for us to be on the same page and develop a real solid relationship, without other "distractions". What's the point to dating someone past a month if you don't see that there is potential? We've actually have been getting to know each other since mid-September, so I don't think knowing each other enough is a factor in this situation. My thought is to buy her a box of chocolates and putting a note inside saying, "I think you're amazing and have all to qualities I look for in a girlfriend, what do you think about us being exclusive?" I thinking of giving her the gift tomorrow night after we watch the movie and we can discuss the topic if she's not ready yet. Any thoughts or suggestions would be appreciated...Thanks!!
Cypress25 Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 The box of chocolates is a sweet idea, but writing a note sounds pretty lame. Just ask her! I'm sure she'll agree, she's probably been waiting for you to ask. It doesn't have to be so formal, just casually mention it to her.
oaks Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 What's the point to dating someone past a month if you don't see that there is potential? To play devil's advocate for a moment: the point of dating someone past a month could be because "it's fun right now" even if one party doesn't see long-term potential. Not everybody you date needs to be your potential life partner (even if you're meeting on a site for people looking for serious relationships). My thought is to buy her a box of chocolates and putting a note inside saying, "I think you're amazing and have all to qualities I look for in a girlfriend, what do you think about us being exclusive?" I thinking of giving her the gift tomorrow night after we watch the movie and we can discuss the topic if she's not ready yet. Any thoughts or suggestions would be appreciated...Thanks!! The note sounds cheesy. Say those words to her instead.
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