lostsomewhere Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I am going to try to make this short...my husband and I have been married for 2 years we have been together for 3...shortly after our first year together I learned I was pregnant I told him and with careful discussion we came o the conclusion that I would keep the baby I had one semester of college left and after that was finished I moved in with him. I hadn't told my mother I was pregnant I come from a very religious and conservative background so I was afraid to tell her...eventually I told her she wasn't happy and demanded me and him get married right away or she will never speak to me again she is muslim I was raised muslim my husband was raised catholic and we are both now agnostic....I didn't marry him right away...also my husband is 12 years older than myself After I had told a close friend I was pregnant and planning to marry my husband he uggested I go through my husbands phone because of my age I had just turned 20...what I found was devestating he had been holding conversations with another girl sexual conversations...I confronted him and told him that I was leaving he cried and begged me to stay and I stayed a few weeks later that friend of mine told me he was in love with me and couldn't continue to be my friend he wanted something more Of course my husband didn't stop he continued his relationship throught my pregnancy no matter howmuch I cried and begged him to stop he said it was nothing physical so it shouldn't be a problem I was insecure and foolish I had no where else to go I didn't have a friend I could stay with my mother wouldn't take me in and I had just graduated college with a few thousand dollars in debt. He didn't stop his relationship with this other girl instead he added his exgirlfriend into the mix...after my son was 3 months old I had had enough I told him I was tired of the lying and fake promises so if he wasn't going to change we should just have an open marriage (I really didn't want one all I wanted was him) he was excited about this choice so I contacted the same friend which I know was wrong he wanted something more but we set up a day to meet an I told my husband and by this time he had spoken to both girls and they had said no they didn't want anything to do with him (of course who wants to have a relationship with a married man if his wife knows about it) he was livid and hurt and said he couldn't handle it and we both decided to end the idea of a open marriage..he was completely transformed I was still hurt and upset that the only reason he had stopped was because I spoke of an open marriage..it took a lot of talking and tears and two years later and another baby I am slightly over it except when something triggers the thought of how I was treated and what he had put me through we argue.... A couple of months ago an old friend of his text him she was married and had a child of her own he told me right away an I didn't think anything of it...she ended up telling him in text messages that she wanted an affair and then sent him a picture of her female parts he didn't tell me this part I found out when I was connecting his phone to our computer to get pictures of our kids that were taken on his phone...he had told her no he was hapily married...I confronted him and he said he was afraid to tell me afraid I wouldn't believe him...which is tre I wouldn't have believed him but he did tell her he was happily married I have to give him some credit but I was jealous and upset and back to where we had started he shouldn't have continued talking to her after she sent him pictures of her private parts after telling him how I felt he had told her he couldn't talk to her anymore tha a line was crossed and he should have done something about it sooner but now I don't know what to do I don't know if I want to stay or if I want to go
NordicStripes Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 You should go. This man is trouble and he will never ever make you happy. He treats you like sh*t, and you deserve better.
joseph17 Posted October 28, 2011 Posted October 28, 2011 You would think he would stop talking to this woman after him telling her he was happy in his marriage. He knew you would be mad if you found out and instead of cutting all contact he continued to talk to her. There would be nothing to say if this woman wanted to have an affair unless he had other intentions. What other reason could there be to talk to this MARRIED woman?
Recommended Posts